My husband loves to go up north for the weekend. I do not. I used to love the opportunity to be by myself and still anticipate that I will love it but it always ends up to be my worst nightmare. When he is gone it is like allowing me the full freedom to spend hours at the casino. He is gone right now and Thursday night I went and spent the entire night. I want to allow him the freedom of going away on weekends but I need a form of control for myself. This is not the only time I gamble but I always have time restraints when he is home. Hopefully this won't be an issue in the future because I hope this is the 2nd day of never gambling again!

I just caught on to the whole banning concept. How do you go about banning yourself from a casino. I thought this was something you did in your head but after reading one of the notes, I am assuming you can really do this at a casino?

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Hello Nay,
Many of us on this forum have gone through the self-banning process, and it has been a lifesaver, to say the least. This is a procedure where you enter into an agreement, voluntarily, with the casino(s) to exclude yourself from all gaming activities and privileges. If you live in a state where the casinos are state regulated, you will need to go to that state's Casino Control Commission/Gaming Control Board office to process the self-exclusion forms. Some states offer the necessary information and forms on their website. In some cases, if the CCC/GCB has an office in a particular casino, you may be able to go directly to that casino to process the forms. Again, this information should be available on your state's website. The terms to which you can self-exclude vary by state, and can range from 1 year, 5 years, or life. Under this scenario, you are excluded from ALL casinos in your state.

The process for self-excluding in states where casinos are non-state regulated (these are states where private casinos, or tribunal casinos, are owned and operated) is handled differently than those that are state regulated. In this case, you must go directly to the casino(s) that you want to be excluded from. Their websites may or may not offer information, instructions, or forms. You are only excluded from that casino, and, in the case where the owner/operator owns others casinos in your state, those casinos will fall under the same umbrella. Essentially, in these states, you may need to go to each casino that you wish to be banned from (depending on ownership). I am not sure if these casinos offer different terms, but, from what I have read here on the forum, most people have been excluded for their lifetime.

The best thing for you to do if you are considering self-exclusion is to go on your state's website, or the actual casino's website, to obtain further information. If you are unable to find any information online, you can always call the casino directly to inquire about their procedure.

Self-exclusion serves as a very powerful barrier, and, as I mentioned above, for many of us, it has been a lifesaver.

If you want your nice weekends back, while your husband is up north, this would be the best way for you to achieve that. Think of all the things you would rather be doing, not to mention all the money you'll be saving.

Wishing you all the best,
Linnie

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Thanks Linnie. I checked on line and they had no information so I will call tomorrow. I want to do this asap, I think it seems to be a good way for me because I only really go to the one casino.

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hi nay. sorry to burst you bubble but your not going up north is just an excuse that your gambling has latched on to because it gives you table time at the casino. does he know what you do when he is away? does he know you gamble and if so to what extent? you think your allowing him time to go away when the reallity is it is your addiction, be mindfull of this also look at why you have to console yourself at the casino. why would you rather be at the casino instead of having quality time with your husband.if he does not know have you considered telling him.

LOVE LIFE*HATE GAMBLING

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Hi count D

My husband is fully aware of my gambling. He hates to gamble and cannot understand the attraction. He has always gone up north for weekends away. We have been married 23 years and I have only gambled about 6 of those years. I don't like being up north, especially at his brothers cabin, very rustic. I like running water, showers and flushing toilets. I also have alergies that seem to be 10 times worse up there. I have had alot of emotional ups and downs over the past years(read my story). The casino became a place that my mind forgot all these problems. Yes, it created other problems but at least the worry for my family members disappeared.
I'm 8 days gambling free and going strong. I have banned myself from the casino and I think this will be my saving grace! I can't change the family issues I am having but I need to find healthier ways to escape the worry!

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hi nay congrats on the 8 days heres to 8 more be strong girl and stay focused

LOVE LIFE*HATE GAMBLING

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