Carole, When we start standing up for ourselves and speak the truth it is a shock to people we know. I am proud of you. Being a people pleaser myself, it took the death of my Husband for me to find my voice. I won’t be pushed around anymore and when someone has said something that hurts me, I will respond. V will either accept what she said and apologize to you or she won’t. I don’t know why she is getting angry. Maybe because she was called on something and doesn’t want to take responsibility. You will have to decide what you want to do with that friendship. I feel you did the right thing regarding Danny. Nothing is going to change with you being in a new location with him. I think he is grasping at straws, trying to keep you. Would he want to go and talk to someone about working on yours and his relationship? I still mourn my relationship with my Husband, it could have been awesome. He wouldn’t seek help for his drinking and didn’t want outside help with our marriage. I went to counseling about both issues by myself. So, I worked on my part but he wouldn’t on his. I still love and miss him, but our marriage had a lot to be desired. One important thing I have learned the last 6 months, stay true to yourself. You do what is good for you not others. If you are happy, you have a different outlook on everything!! Okay, enough of my rambling!! Take care of yourself and do what is good and beneficial for you. Seize all the good things in life
