Fighting 2 demons cancer and gambling.

5 years ago my life changed for the worst. I had everything going for me great job wonderful family etc. I became ill one night and was rushed to hospital only to be diagnosed with terminal cancer. And so I fought the fight and got through the treatments. After a couple of months depression set in when I was told I could never return to my job again because of my health and then I discovered the dreaded online gambling sites. They took me to another world, a world that made me forget my health problems basically they took me away from facing reality. I so desperately want to fight this demon just like the cancer. The fight begins today!!!!


Conway

It was so nice to meet you in chat today .

You will fight this demon - because it is just that - it seeks to destroy us.

You are sending this demon a strong message by taking action against it .

You have started a thread , you are reaching out for help and you are going to beat this.

I look forward to reading what your next steps will be .


Onwards and upwards !


It was lovely to meet you too and to hear your positive words.I hope to make it as far as you have and come out the other side. I don't feel so alone in this battle now.Having the support chain is everything.


onwards and upwards!!!!! 


Welcome to the site. If anyone understands your situation it is me. I started gambling when I was recovering from kidney cancer surgery in 2011. Five and a half years of destruction ending up in destitution. I started as I was so used to working and my recuperation was delayed after going back to work and having to stop again. The reasons why I gambled to such destruction were multiple but the reality was I self destructed and lost my faith that anything would turn out well again. I was wrong, of course. I was angry at how everything had turned out. My relationship ship went at the same time as soon as I got out of hospital.

I am now two years and nine months gambling free. If I can do it so can you.

I would recommend getting counselling support. Having a cancer diagnosis and gambling to destruction is not that an unusual phenomenon. To get a terminal diagnosis is a very hard thing but doctors really don’t know everything. You have done five years and that is great, well done. A close friend of mine with metastatic cancer is recovering and getting better very slowly on a combo of traditional and natural treatments.

We have to admit to ourselves that we are powerless over gambling and let our higher power, whatever you believe that to be, to take the reins, But you must get counselling support from a gambling specific or addictions counsellor. When we have a cancer diagnosis, there are many emotions we need to work through. I never sought counselling help when I had cancer and I believe if I did I might have avoided a trail of destruction through gambling.

This site is great, to journal o to join the groups in chat.

Good luck and keep posting.


Yes, I remember you from chat, earlier in the week. Great that you have found the forums and I hope that reading through them has been helpful for you.


My only advice would be to seperate yourself from your "gambling" behaviour - and whilst you are fighting the behaviour, you are also being gentle with yourself, allowing yourself what you need to keep going.


I hope you can keep posting here and we will keep answering. Good to keep up the dialogue with you. Go well.


Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums


Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!


Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.


As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)


And on that note....


I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you :-)


Take care


The Gambling Therapy Team



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Hi Conway, my apologies, my screen froze. If you can come back to a group sometime then hopefully we can talk.