First timer!

So after promising my partner and family I would stop, I lied about registering with gamstop and carried on gambling online!

My partner found out that I had gambled our wages over £700 for this week & I ashamed to say I’ve broken his heart! I’m naturally a very truthful person but gambling has turned me into a monster! I’ve been lying to the people I love most! Me and my husband have been married for nearly 15 yrs and together for nearly 20 yrs, I can’t actually believe what I’ve put him through! But I’ve now registered with gamstop and have had emails from any sites I’ve ever used to say my accounts are being closed & I have to say I feel like a weight has been lifted of my shoulders! So onwards and upwards as they say.....


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I speak from my perspective of being the son of a compulsive gambler (as well as one myself) and I know the majority of arguments between my parents were because of my father's lies, rather than his gambling.

I think my mother became used to the idea of not having any money and having to hide what little she had from him - but not being able to trust him and asking him what had happened when money went missing (and he always denied taking it) just tipped her over the edge.


Good to hear that you have admitted you have a problem and you have registered here and with Gamstop. Can you involve your husband in your recovery? Is he able to handle your finances for you - so that you don't have the ammunition to gamble with? Can you access support together? There is a families and friends forum as well as this one on the GT site and specific support groups for F&Fs.


Well done for reaching out. I wish you well.


i feel good at the moment, 7 days not gambling AT ALL! It feels amazing but now I'm trying to gain my husbands trust back, this is the scariest part of my journey for me! i have been writing a personal diary and have broken down why/what/when I feel the compulsion to gamble so I can understand my triggers! I have also registered with 'gamstop' and that has shut down all of my online casino accounts even the 1s I'd forgotten about! It's a really amazing charity! it also gives my husband some peace of mind that even if I wanted to I cannot gamble! I have only ever gambled on online slots, im not that savvy when it comes to getting around these things so hopefully it will help. The biggest thing I have found is that I'm being honest with myself & asked myself 'What have I actually gained from gambling?' NOTHING! Because I was always repaying debts I had accrued due to gambling.  Also your comment about being the child of a gambler really bought home the fact that my kids (16 & 13 yrs old) are completely old enough to understand what I'm doing, how much im lying, how stressed I am if I lose and that it's all down to gambling!! I do not want them to say to anyone when they are older "i Was the child of a gambling addict" because it's not how I've bought them up! it's quite a new situation I'm in a year or so but it's a year or so too long! I looking for a job too so I can get out of the house because I think boredom and not being needed so much by my kids has played a huge part in me even gambling in the first place!! I've put everything into my family, my home and we've had a few things over the last 6/7/8 years that have been 1 thingafter the other (son diagnosed with ADHD, daughter self harming, moving to a new area, trying to keep my son in main stream education, etc) I found them all traumatic and stressful because my kids are my world as is my husband!