HOW CAN I GET MY MONEY BACK?

Hi all.

where do i start?

yes I'm a compulsive gambler , it lets me forget my life I don't want to live anymore. I get a high when i win and don't feel nothing when i spin my £125 spins a time and lose it all then the depression and despair sets in . I just want to sleep and never wake up.

I have borrowed thousands from family members , scammed people online to fund my addiction, I have even sucked cock. Just the once and i am completley disgusted with myself


I have a supportive partner and 3 children. I feel i have destroyed my family.


I have mental heath issues too, borderline personality disorder, manic depression, eating disorders ,bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. I take medication for it but when i get stressed it gets bad.


Recently i have self excluded myself from every online outlet.


Too look at me you wouldn't think there is anything wrong but underneath there is, I hide it and try and cope with normal everyday things.


I am lucky I have a partner who knows all this and wants to help. he is trying to get a psychiatrist to have one on one sessions with to do with my past when was was younger that effected me badly.


Saying all this ..I have read a lot of posts and i feel the same, we are all going through the same thing. It's hell and i wish there wasn't any gambling allowed online. I want to stop all these crooks!


In the meantime i and giving it up and it feels dull , i need stimulation of some kind so i must get back into my running and exercise and i am a perfectionist so i'm pretty tough on my self.


I would like to ask a question .. as i have serious mental health do i stand a chance of getting my recent deposits back?


Before i have self excluded and explained my mental health with cassava and they didn't close it so i kept doing it.


I wish i never got into this in the first place.


Want to say to everyone reading this , stay strong, don't give up . The best thing about life is that a new day comes and we can start again.

charleen



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Hi Charleen. That was a tough read. Kudos on the honesty. Where was it exactly that you asked to be banned, but they failed to ban you?

From my experience both online and brick and mortar casinos take these requests very, very seriously and act on them immediately.


Can you give more details and also how did you lose money there? Is there paper trace (did you use your bank cards at those places etc. Also, can you prove that you requested to be excluded?)


Hi Charleen. I'm not going to comment on your chances of getting a refund, other than to say that isn't the most important thing here.


More importantly what actions are you talking to make sure you don't deposit any more on any gambling site?


It sounds like your partenr and family know about your gambling problems? How about he takes over the finances for a while so you can't gamble? Making yourself accountable will both help you stop gamblign and show your family how much you mean it this time. Also of course put their mind at rest you aren't still gambling.


What other interests do you have? What things are you going to fill your time with away from gambling? I know that's not easy.


Keep posting here, let us know the positive steps you are taking.


Firstly, Hi Jansdad It was foxy bingo and all the other outlets they own. Yes i8 have emails asking and i made phone calls asking to be self excluded. yes i paid by visa debit and paypal. I'm getting advice from the gaming commissioner.

The money would be nice to treat the family to a holiday.


I have baned myself from gala, tombola, mecca, william hill

everyone. made a list and done it.

Hi Charles , you are right ..I'm going to stay strong and come on here when i feel weak . I seem to like investigating things to find the real truth and to get a understanding like psychology and even media, news ( i must be getting old , i remember my dad watching the news on TV and i had to be dead quiet and i couldn't understand why he found it so interesting ) but i do . i'd love to be a proper investigator . It just takes me in and my mind gets stimulated.


Got a lot of stress coming with my partner having to go to court (he done nothing bad , just spoke out about things that were wrong) with this system of a country we live in so I will have to manage all the kids while he is in London on Monday.

I will try and exercise!!

Thanks Charles and Jansdad for your replys , it feels good someone read me and took time to reply. xx


Hi I think you are doing well and taking a good step coming here. I would not focus on trying to get your money back either through gambling or by hoping the casinos refund your deposits. Because in all likely hood they wont no matter what. Accept the fact the money has gone it does not belong to you. And then take the next step to focus how you can start to stop yourself gambling for good.


Wish you well with this.