I really need your help

I'm not even sure I'm doing this right. I registered about 15 mins ago and really need to write this stuff down and hope for help and support. I need to take this first step to recovery I can't continue down this road. It eats away at me and having a bet is on my mind 24-7 I've had breaks in the past and thought I could do this on my own but I can't as I always end up back in the same place. My wife as stood by me and really tried her best to be supportive but I always seem to go back to betting. I lie and sneak about it. I make excuse up to what drives me to gamble and i know that's not the reason but i try to reason it.

I feel I will loose my wife and daughters if I carry on any longer so I had to take this step now. Please tell me it's the right move and that I can begin to get my life back on track one step at a time


Hello  and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums


Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing.  We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support.  We’re in this together!


Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment.  The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward.  So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.


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And on that note....


I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you :-)


Take care


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Hi Corey,


I am in exactly the same position. I lie and make excuses constantly. My husband does not understand but tries to be supportive. I know he is sick of me gambling our money away and I feel it's only a matter of time before he stops the support. I know I'm probably not helping here but thought I should let you know your not alone. I still don't know how I'm going to stop as I have only been able to not gamble for short periods of time. I really want to stop but just don't know how.


Hi littlenicz thanks for the reply it does help knowing I'm not alone with this so thanks. I opened up alot to my wife since I registered on here and spoke about the way I feel and the reasons I believe I gamble. Not sure if im making progress or not but I feel better for being able to write things down on here. I've had short breaks before but I'm hoping this time with help from others in the same boat as me and also a strong will which I need to dig deep for this time I could move forward and stay on the right path for good.

Thanks again


I can totally relate, last month after a few months of not gambling I decided to take out a loan to catch my house payments up, 3 hours later I had lost it all. then made it almost 30 days and again gambled. I am 3 days without a bet, if I don't get recovery this time I could lose everything, so one day at a time I'm starting over. This is my first post here. I lose my mind when I gamble, it is so weird, if I don't make that first bet hopefully I can recover from our financial mess I put us in. thanks for the post.


When I know there is no money in my checking account, I don't even think about Gambling because I can't. As soon as I get money, I flip a switch and can't control myself. I don't know how I got this way.


I too feel the way you feel. I did get divorced and we are now dating again..divorced about 6 minths dating after 3 months. I have gambled over $303,500. 00 since January and now broke. I have self exclusion myself for the 1st time ever in my life on 9/26\2017. I haven't gambled but always thinking about it since self exclusion. Tomorrow going to my 2nd GA meeting. Good luck ..you can do it.you must take action .


Hi


I know that you post in my journal Mark.


If the rest of you chaps click om the forum tab above you will see the list of forums.


The best support for people trying to stop gambling can be found in the "My Journal" forum.


Also try the live help line and the support groups on this site, I won't kid you, it isn't the easiest thing to quit, but it can be done.


I wish you all the very best with it.


Geordie.


My 2nd day without gambling. It is so difficult. Ive gambled thousands away and keep on thinking just one big win and my worries are over. Unfortunately that will never happen but my mind keep on telling me give it one more try. When I start I go out of control and then after that trying to chase my losses. I just end up in more debt.


I really need help too. I have spent thousands over the last few months and am up to my eyes in debt. I don’t know what to do. I need someone to talk to


Start a thread in my journal and the community can respond back to you. Your post here less likely to be seen.

Where abouts are you in the world? There is a way out.

We are all in huge debt or have been with this addiction. When did you last gamble?


Hi Little lay and welcome.

Monicau is right - the My Journal Forum is a busier forum and you will get a lot of support there. You can stop gambling I promise you. You are not alone with this problem and using the support here means you don't have to deal with it on your own either. See you in the other forum. There are live chat groups here as well. Click on "Support Groups" for the full schedule. The "Open Groups" are unmoderated so there is not always someone there but all the other types of group have a facilitator in. Hopefully see you in one soon.