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An ego is a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance.

“Ego” is the “I”, “me”” myself” part of any person that form the identity and personality.

Having a healthy ego means we can maintain a healthy sense of self, but an imbalance can lead to problems, including excessive self-centeredness.

The “it’s all about me, I, myself” approach comes from the ego, and this thinking distorts failures and successes. With success, ego can blind us to our faults and sow future problems. In failure, ego magnifies each blow and makes recovery more difficult. The ego created a personal identity and a fixed mindset making us resistant to change and new ideas. We become stuck in our ways; limited in our ability to learn and adapt to new situations.

Most people think of the ego as the way we view ourselves and our relationships with others.

Research has shown that the ego can be held responsible for many negative human traits including but not limited to:

-criticizing and judging others,
-acting manipulative; the desire to enjoy at the expense of others; to think and act at the expense of others.
-being inflexible and rigid,
-having severe mood swings,
-possessing a constant need for praise and approval,
-need to feel superior to everyone around; dominating conversations; stopping others from expressing their ideas; stopping others from expressing their ideas; rewarding those who support them (and perhaps punishing those who don’t); bullying, or trying to exert power they don’t really have; constantly talking about themselves and their achievements; ignoring or dismissing the opinions and feelings of others; belittling or putting down others to make themselves feel superior,
-feeling fearful, anxious, being uncooperative,
-taking things too seriously,
-taking offense easily,
-constantly worrying over little things,
-feeling resentful towards others,
-inability to live in the present moments,
-feelings of hopelessness and despair
-the need for power and control; how we use, hurt and harm people,
-being unwilling to take responsibility for their actions and blaming others instead
-disregarding rules and social norms for their own benefit
-being competitive and obsessed with winning or being the best

Such negative traits have very serious consequences and can easily make any person’s life a misery. This can cause the person to seek an escape, quick fix, relief and addiction to mind altering substances and behaviour to take away or lessen the unpleasant feeling.

Everyone has some degree of ego and self-interest; it is not always a negative trait. However, when someone consistently prioritizes their own needs and desires over others, and shows a lack of empathy and consideration for those around them, it can be an unhealthy sign.

  • This reply was modified 8 months ago by kin.