I wish I had more strength to keep backing off, and I dont think you are telling me how to recover, but you have been right in your knowledge of saying “it sounds like game playing to me, throwing me off and trying to blame others to take away his gambling actions, the lies and manipulation”.
So why does he not gamble 100 pounds but gambles 10000.? Can he not look after himself, trust himself? and why not talk to your supports when you have the urge to gamble? and when I mentioned rehab, he just made an excuse about not being able to do this because of his job and house. what job? surely he will get sacked? or not.
I sometimes wonder if I keep him going as I manage no contact for a while and then I give in. Do I make it easier for him?
I dont get it.
What I do get is the need to move on with my life. Its harder than I thought.
Lots of questions again.sorry