ok. so after I commented last night, I stayed up until I passed out while waiting for my CG Wife. She came home in tears and desperate. at first, I just wanted to ignore her sorries and pleas and just sleep. It was 4am and I was dead tired. But, there was a moment I could tell she was reaching out.
So I sat up and listened and all of a sudden, She asked for HELP!. SHE ASKED ME FOR HELP!. SHE SAID SHE WAS A COMPULSIVE GAMBLER AND NEEDED MY HELP TO CURE HER ADDICTION. I was thrown “out of my seat”. I couldnt believe it. I was happy, shocked, and worried all at the same time. I knew immediately I needed to wait and not judge and listen to her.
She told me she basically wasted every dime to her name tonight and realized at that last moment there was something wrong. I didn’t care about the money and still dont. I care about her. She admitted that she didnt even realize and was gambling angry because she was losing so bad and just wanted it all back. i let her know that it was NOT HER FAULT. it was this BEAST that had control of her and she was caught in it’s grip. Things went on for an hour like this and I think I realized she might have finally hit bottom.
She has never directly reached out and asked for my emotional help at this point. She apologized to me and asked for my forgiveness. Of course I accepted and actually said there is nothing to forgive. Her actions were not her fault and were directly the result of the addiction. I did tell her that I was glad to see her hit bottom honestly. Because for the first time in about 6 years, she has had to depend on me for financial as well as emotional support.
I know this is just the start of the battle but I’m hoping to take this WAR head on. My problem is, where do I start? I want to be delicate with her but not forceful. I dont want to force her into anything. She will be turning over ALL her finances to me starting today as well as the full control of our business finances as well. But, I’m wondering what steps i should take to help keep her mind off of gambling. ANY INPUT HELPS!..
thank you all for your attention so far. I will keep you updated.