One of the best things about being gamble free is “choice”.
Sometimes it’s simple choices like shall I go out for breakfast or shall I cook?
It may be the choice to attend an event because we can afford to go and buy decent clothes to wear.
As time progresses, choice also progresses. We can choose to move home, to make overpayments to our mortgage or to take a fabulous holiday.
What I didn’t expect was “choice” when it comes to people. I find as I continue on my gamble-free journey, my sense of self worth is increasing.
This means I no longer require people in my life who choose to pull me down rather than build me up… and it is a choice – each time we pass judgment, each time we criticise, each time we feel we can dictate to others or decide their motives – each time we do these things we do them because we like the high that the temporary power gives us, we like the feeling of superiority and we like that we escape our own insecurities for a short while.
It is definitely a choice because helping others makes us feel just as good inside ! And it leaves us feeling good for longer.
I notice now that I am not giving these people my time or energy I have so much spare time to fill. It is time I will use to do things for me, to follow my dreams instead of wasting time trying to please those who cannot be pleased !
This has been a week of deep learning !