Dear (((Liz)))! People are about as happy as they want to be. My mother has been an unhappy person most of her life, and nothing that anyone can say or do is going to change that. My mother can always find something to complain about. I’ve heard you wonder if you’ll be able to look after your mother in her declining years, in your home. I have realized that it would be a recipe for disaster to take my mother in, even if she wanted to live with us. Sometimes we have to care for parents at a distance, with people that can look after them, like assisted living or even nursing home care. That’s the stark reality of having difficult parents. When the time comes, you’ll know what you can do and can’t. It sounds like your mother is a frustrated depressed compulsive gambler. Carole
