Dear Velvet and Worriedmama – many thanks for your replies.
I have read each through numerous times and gain something else each time I read them. So thank you.
Last week, once my son came home I left it a couple of days before talking.
I downloaded some self exclusion forms for casinos and left them in his room for him. I also sent him the 20 questions and asked him to do the test and just think about the replies.
I also booked a private appointment with a counselor for him. He wasn’t happy about going – but he did and afterwards he said he would make another appointment for this week.
He has come home each night after work at a reasonable hour – so I know he has not been to the casino ( obviously there are other ways to gamble ) but I see this as positive.
I am resolved to helping him – but I see the point about not supporting him financially.
I will keep you posted on how things go this week.
I am feeling more positive – but its early days.