The difference between a partner with a gambling addiction and cancer is very simple. A person with a gambling addiction has a choice to control their illness …….. a person with cancer does not have a choice to have or always control that illness. Both may have a choice to have treatment or not. The outcomes could be the same.

Your partner has refused the option of treatment but still wants the enablement from all of you! he denys the fact that he is ill by refusing the treatment. He is playing you and taking you all to be fools. Rock bottom is an individual thing, it doesn’t mean being allowed to land on a big fluffy pillow of options – it is where there are no other options but to choose recovery or not.

He doesn’t accept the fact that he has a problem yet.

No one should tell you what to do. No one can tell you what to do.

When I was your age, with my whole life ahead of me and faced with someone who behaved like that ………… I would have run like hell and never looked back.

I wonder now why at the age of 48 I somehow became along the way so tolerant of the poor behavior of others.

If I had my time again I would definately run !! now as it is I just settle for a slow walk in the right direction