I am sorry to hear that you and your partner are having further problems health-wise. You certainly have more than enough to cope with and I am sure you are wise to back off, for whatever other reasons – you probably need to concentrate on just doing the absolute essentials and then resting when possible. And hopefully, finding some special moments to enjoy whatever you need to help lift your spirits.
A mother’s heart will always be a mother’s heart, so you will feel those motherly feelings, but you have wisdom too and strength gained from past experience.
Always wishing you well,