#1374
madge456
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Yes.. hoping for a happy 2014
Wanted to say hi and say you’ve been doing a great job trying to stay centered. It is so hard with kids and other responsibilities. I too struggle with being sucked into enabling – if he is abusive or helpless I have to (feels like) almost physically force myself not to give in/rescue/apologize for the situation – good for you for not giving into the Pasta scenario and keeping your distance. It is hard to find the balance for both of you…
I also resonate on not being able to rely on your CG – I have gotten very frustrated about it and wallowed in the “this isn’t fair” thoughts etc etc, but I slowly realized that got me no where. It sounds like you are beyond that, standing your ground and taking care of yourself and your own needs – good for you – That is a ray of sunshine – you are doing well and an inspiration to me…
xoxo
M