Hi Braze
All my experience tells me that ultimatums to CGs do not work. A compulsive gambler is the master of threats and manipulation and you are not.
Ultimatums to a CG are more often than not the red rag to the bull, giving them the chance to call the bluff of the loved one and discover the weak link. When the ultimatum is not carried through in its entirety, the CG can relax and be fairly assured that life will continue its own sweet way but with the added benefit of knowing that their addiction is strengthened by the inability of the loved one to carry out the ultimatum. Never issue an ultimatum unless you are prepared to carry it out to the nth degree – it is not and never will be a bargaining chip.
I am hoping you will post again soon with an update
Velvet