Hi Lu
I am so sorry not to have had the chance to talk with you in real time and I hope you will have another go. I wonder if the groups on Tuesdays at 22.00 hours UK time might be better for you – if I have worked it out correctly it will be around 8am for you on Wednesdays.
You have already taken a big step in your relationship with your husband and it would be great to be able to support you further – it is so hard dealing with the addiction to gamble on your own.
To start your own thread, scroll to the bottom of the F&F page, click on ‘New Topic’, give your thread a title, write your post in the box and click ‘Save’- as you have seen already there are other members ready and willing to walk with you and support you. It is great to read other threads but your post will receive the individual support that ‘you’ deserve.
Knowledge of the addiction to gamble does help you cope. You are right to believe that control of the addiction can only begin to come about with acceptance but also with acceptance must come action. I don’t know how far you have got with your reading but I suggest clicking on ‘Resources’ at the top of this page, then click on Gamblers Anonymous International Directory, click on the link and then on ’20 questions’ and maybe print them off. There is no guarantee that your husband will respond well to seeing these questions but sometimes CGs (compulsive gamblers) are not aware that they have a recognised addiction or that there is help for them.
I understand why you are telling him to blame you if he wants to do so – but please be aware that you know that you are not to blame.
I hope you do start you own thread and that we may ‘talk’ in real time soon. You are definitely not alone.