Please start your own thread as it is impossible to support you on another member’s thread and you will miss the individual support that ‘you’ deserve. It is great to read other threads but by starting your own, you will receive knowledge of the addiction and give others the chance to support you. Scroll to the bottom of the F&F page, click on ‘New Topic’ and follow the instructions.
You are right to believe that control of the addiction can only begin to come about with acceptance but also with acceptance must come action. I don’t know how far you have got with your reading but I suggest clicking on ‘Resources’ at the top of this page, then click on Gamblers Anonymous International Directory, click on the link and then on ’20 questions’ and maybe print them off. There is no guarantee that your husband will respond well to seeing these questions but sometimes CGs (compulsive gamblers) are not aware that they have a recognised addiction or that there is help for them.
I understand why you are telling him to blame you if he wants to do so – but please be aware that you know that you are not to blame.
I hope you do start you own thread and that we may ‘talk’ in real time soon.