I understand that you dont want to cause your wife anymore upset and harm.
Moving out might be a bit hasty.
It’s not you that needs to get out of your relationship, it’s your addiction. By using the correct support, no matter how f’ed up your life has become, you can learn to live without feeding the addiction. You can live gambling free.
Life isn’t always a bed of roses, but it surely is a life.
For me when I was gambling it was no life. Maybe Purgatory, but no bloody life.
Gambling is everywhere, and there is lots of help available in the UK, especially in your neck of the woods. Hope you get it sorted.
Take care.
Geordie.