My CG son is in the middle- a 2 year older brother and a 3 year younger sister. I know my eldest son is more annoyed with me than my daughter. He is very black and white and I think he thinks if I would have been tougher we could have put an end to this years ago. My daughter on the other hand is mad at her brother for the hurt he has caused everyone.
We try our best to keep the drama down to a minimum but sometimes it just boils over into all our lives. As time has gone on we are much better at compartmentalizing (sp?) the bad times and not letting it affect our lives or plans… not perfect but much better than it was at the beginning.