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Hi Jenna,

I’m sure you don’t need me to say it but this will be the toughest battle of your life. Well done on opening up with your boyfriend and starting GA. These are great positive steps towards your recovery. As for the depression side of things please seek further medical assistance with that. Gambling and depression are often tied closely together.

But these steps alone are still NOT enough. Emotional support is great but you really need to start taking proactive steps for disallowing yourself from any future gambling. There are two things you must consider if you truly want to stop gambling:

1) Self-exclusion: this one goes without saying. Any casinos/bookies/slots venue or online casino you use? Close your accounts and self-exclude now.

2) Limiting access to funds and/or handing over your finances: cut up your cards and carry around limited cash. Put any savings away into a non-accessible place. Drastic times call for drastic measures. Now that you’ve told your partner about your problem, it would be immensely helpful if you handed over full control of your finances to him. Have your salary go into his account/a joint account. Ask him to monitor the account closely and only grant you access to funds you need for legitimate expenses. I’m certain he would be more than willing to assist you in this regard.

Take these steps and coupled with your GA and treatment for depression, you will be well on your way to recovery. You are still very young and have a long future ahead of you. You CAN be a daughter and gf to be proud of. You CAN become a great wife and mother one day. The addiction is the one telling you you can’t. The addiction wants you to play the victim card. Because when you do, it gives you an EXCUSE to keep gambling and in that way, the addiction wins. You must ultimately learn to control the addiction in the long term but at this stage prevention will be critical in the short term. Good luck and keep posting here !