What a lot of worries.. Is your dad drinking at the moment.?
I suppose really within. A marriage both partners own everything – as usually there are many sacrifice made for any money to accumulate .
Your post has served as a lesson to me- I always think its my money – I earned it , but of course life is never that simple .
It is my way of excusing the money I have squandered.
While I can’t really offer you any advice I hope it all works out . I have watched my mum squander my dads quite substantial life savings since his death. It was so inportant to him that he left her and us ( not happening now!!!) well provided for and instead he has left the local casinos well provided for .
Trust your gut on this one!!