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Originally posted by kathryn

Well, tonight the truth finally came out. …

Good morning Kathryn,
Sorry to hear about your confrontation with your husband, but as Meg point out, his thoughts are understandable. It is not understandable to me however, (but I am the CG, not the other one) how he would keep these fears bottled up within him. for you to be as open to us here your life must be as open to him, even with it being hidden in the past. And as Meg also said it is good that it is out in the open, now with honesty on both your parts it can offer new ways to address the future; ways to put down the past and walk on.
Today’s thought from Hazelden reminded my of your situation, and although it applies more to your husband’s harboring of the past than to your recoveyr, maybe you can see something in it that will also guide you in helping him advance with you in your recover. Your recovery has made you stronger; show this improvement and be strong in dealing with leftover resentments of others. In the reading below, and from your post, I see your husband as the second monk and your confrontation as a way to release and heal unsettled business. 
According to a Japanese legend, two monks were walking down the road when they saw a finely dressed young woman standing before a large mud puddle. She explained that she had no way of crossing the water without ruining her clothes. Without saying a word, the first monk picked her up in his arms and lifted her safely across the obstacle.

A few hours later the second monk said in an accusatory tone, "How could you have picked up that lady? Don’t you know that the rules strictly forbid us to touch a member of the opposite sex?" His friend smiled and then replied, "I put the woman down back at the puddle. Are you still carrying her?"

Like the second monk, many of us are still carrying old hurts, resentments, and lost opportunities that we picked up many mud puddles ago. As long as we remain stuck in the past, we cannot fully hear the inner voice, which speaks to us in the present. Thus, in order to tap our intuition, we need to release and heal our unfinished business.

By following the example of the first monk, we can put the past down and walk on. See your past experiences as teachings that have guided you to this present moment.  An endless array of opportunities and possibilities lie before you. Immerse yourself in this good, and the old hurts will have no place left to make their home.
                                               You are reading from the book: Listening to Your Inner Voice by Douglas Bloch  
God’s speed. Stay strong.

"Day Two Is Another Day Behind" – With the help of a Higher Power, My 3G’s – God, GA, and GT, I will continue to be  gambling free.– 7/3/2010 3:38:07 PM: post edited by paul315.