Originally posted by kathryn
… I never live in the past, never bring things up because as far as im concerned the past is the past. …
… I wonder how long it will be before i am free of the remarks, i dont believe they are intended to be hurtful, but they do hurt. …
Life is about falling….living is about getting up!
Good morning Kathryn,
Reading over your post and the replies reminded me of some discussions during my GA meetings. I am fortunate to have some "old timers" in my group, ones with four to ten years being clean, to give me inspiration and insight into what still lies ahead in my recovery. When some of the new members talk about how they feel when their loved ones or friends keep reminding them of what they had done, the seasoned members are quick to tell of how they still have to face such comments and questions. In fact Monday night one with 4 years being gambling free told about his wife saying how nice their Christmas was this year, and adding the comment "how surprised she was that he was not running out to gambl". He finally considered this as a compliment, but only after the hurt subdued.
What I am trying to say is that it seems like the comments will continue long after our past is our past. And even though we try not to live in the past as far as our gambling is concerned, our past may still be others present fears; and, like these others still being reminded of our past actions and bringing them up from time to time, we also bring up things from the past, things that had nothing to do with our surpressed gambling, but, may have something to do with what others are trying to put behind them.
And just as the remarks about things concerning the past of others, their comments about your past are probably not, as you suspect, intended to be hurtful. Nevertheless, they do hurt and cause us to fall from our contented state, but these falls are all part of life, and as I have read somewhere "Life is about falling….living is about getting up!"
"Day Two Is Now Another Day Behind" – With the help of a Higher Power, My 3G’s – God, GA, and GT, I will not have to relive a Day 2.– 12/30/2009 6:18:30 PM: post edited by paul315.