good for you on so many fronts. The trip (doing something nice and rewarding for yourself), the counselling (a possible method of exploring how you feel and why) and for saying no to the supper with your friend and her partner (making a very sensible choice, protecting your gambling sobriety, and being forthright with someone you trust).
So girl, I must say congrats on being exceptionally wise
I too will be celebrating my 40th this year but I don’t think a trip will be in my budget. I will have to come up with a creative yet cheap way to celebrate.
Have a good day Kathryn and take care.