Dear Waikanae I have just joined this site as I am struggling once again, after my partner of 18 years caused a row 6 days ago and emptied the bank account just so he could leave to gamble every penny away. I haven’t heard from him since. I sit here with dread and worry as I know from past experience he will be back when every penny has gone. I wish I was as brave as you to end this realationship once and for all. My head is telling me excactly what to do. But my heart is still holding on to the man I fell in love with, hoping and praying he will change. I wish you luck and admirer your corages decision. It really helps me reading such success stories.Take one day at a time.