I am so sorry for what you are going through. I was married to my gambling husband for thirty years before I summoned the courage to separate from him and it took me another three years to realise I was not responsible for him. You are in an abusive relationship even though you don’t think you are. If you have children living with you they are also being abused and your responsibility is to them not your husband even though he makes you feel responsible for him. My three children have been badly affected by their father and I have a lot of guilt about it. Don’t forget that relationships are about being happy not miserable.– 04/05/2013 08:50:05: post edited by Velvet.