Hi Adele,
I can see why you are confused as this addiction is always sending mixed message. It knows when to be nice, it knows how to twist situations in its favor and it knows how to be mean as he**. One can never trust it, but of course it is within the one we love, but, still this is not an excuse.
You see it is your husband that has chosen to gamble. He is the one not the addiction. The addiction cannot operate alone. It can whisper sweet nothings in his ear, but it cannot physically make him gamble. Each cg is it’s lifesource and unfortunately, we become one as well when we enable and tolerate gambling.
Continue to concentrate on your recovery, as you are doing well. It is important for you to let your husband take responsibility in his recovery. He has got to want it more than anything for it to work.
XXXTwilight(I believe we get our greatest strength from the hardest obstacles)