Dear Dadda
I don’t think I can answer much of your questioning, but I wanted to let you know I have read your post (and I am sure others have too) and that you are being heard and thought about.
If you were in the UK, I might ask if you have had any help from the CAB (Citizens Advice Bureau), which gives free advice on lots of things, including legal and financial.  Do you know if you have a similar organization in Indiana?  I have looked under Resources above, then Indiana and Financial and Legal services and a few things came up.  Is any of this useful?
You do deserve to be protected from the emotional pressure (*********?) and physical harassment, as well as the financial and legal hounding you have been receiving.
There are so many different issues here and I can feel the desperation and exhaustion in what you write.  Is it possible to SLOW down your thinking and consider ONE thing you can do to protect yourself today?  There is a long way to go, I know, but there is a saying about the long journey begins with just one step …  And sometimes the serenity prayer (whether or not you believe in a divine being) can help.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change
The courage to change the things I can
And the wisdom to know the difference.
 — 01/09/2013 13:25:34: post edited by monique.