Thanks so much velvet. I will suggest this site to him. If he agrees I would like this thread made invisible as he would recognise from it and he gets very annoyed if anything negative is said about his father. We have had arguments about how his father has dealt with the situation which I feel has contributed to my insecurities. I am glad to have found some support and hopefully I will get some for my cg also. I have heard of that place is it a kind of rehab? Do they have it in N.I or just mainland U.K?