***** Anne,
Thanks for sharing. Well, you know the bottom line is this, if your husband is a professional poker player, as he calls it, he’s not properly managing his money. He’s not paying the bills and he’s not contributing towards the betterment of the family but instead relies only on his bankroll and using it to play more poker, then your husband isn’t a professional poker player he’s a compulsive gambler and it’s not about money. It never is. There isn’t any amount that’s ever going to be enough because ***** always want to have enough bankroll to play in the bigger tournaments, and once he makes that much ***** want some to play in the cash games after the tournaments, it’s a never-ending cycle. Your husband ***** to understand that he is a compulsive gambler if he continues to put his money into poker and not taking anything out for the family. He also may want to review gamblers anonymous’ twenty questions to see how he answers those. Most compulsive gamblers will answer yes to at least seven of questions. So I would check out the gamblers anonymous website gamblers anonymous .org and if he’s open to it, I would encourage him to look into himself and see if anything makes sense.
Either way I wish you and your husband best and hope that you can work through it.