Hi Mac21,
I’m glad you have found this site.  I have found so much help and support here and I know you will continue to as well.  It sounds encouraging that your husband has been willing and actually attended counselling and you are getting support there too.
It does take time for trust to rebuild as you say, and its so challenging while you are waiting for something to sink your teeth into that allows you to start trusting.  It feels so awful to not trust someone you love and to wonder what will happen in the future.
I don’t feel like I can offer much in the way of help as I am still trying to figure things out for myself, but wanted you to know that I had read and am thinking about you and wishing you both all the best.  You sound very strong and clear minded!