Hi Julygirl, I am glad that you have moved on with your life and that you are happy. I think being with a CG teaches a lot to the non gambling partner and, although I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, it can lead ultimately to a better relationship with yourself even if the relationship with the CG doesn’t work out. CG’s gamble for a multitude of different reasons, often an escape from things they can’t look at, this is why I believe dealing with the root cause can and not just the actual gambling is so important.
I have heard of sexuality issues playing a part for some CG’s but anything that is hard for a person to look at or except can drive some people to try to escape into one addiction or another I think. It is a shame in this day and age that homosexuality is still considered something to be ashamed of in some circles. If it was just excepted generally by society as a whole perhaps it would be easier for individuals to except it in themselves. I am guessing this is something that your ex has not looked at himself and buries deep inside so he may not even be aware of it himself.
Whatever the reason behind your ex’s gambling it is not your fault or responsibility and his issues do not reflect on you as a person. I hope you continue to enjoy your life and grow in your recovery. Lil x Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. (Maria Robinson)