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Anonymous
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I can only relate my experience. Velvet is correct…no you can’t trust him. My husband is a CG and I can not trust a thing he says. He will tell me whatever he thinks will make me give him money (which he knows I won’t do anymore) or let him have his way (gamble). My husband attends GA (gambler’s anonymous) however I don’t think he is quite in the right mind set yet. I hope someday sooner than later he will be. The only word of caution is if he moves in with you be prepared for this to become a firm part of your life as well. I am still learning how to deal with CG so it does not totally control all I do. It may be a little different for you being that he is a sibling and not a spouse, I really don’t know. Don’t get me wrong I love my husband and I pray every day he beats this but I am LEARNING I have to take care of myself as well, because it’s easy to get lost in the I can save them mentality. I am trying to break that habit of mine right now. I can understand why you would offer this to your brother, I would do the same for one of my siblings. Like Velvet said have your boundaries, whatever they are. And whatever you set up make sure you can stand by them. In some ways the CG is a child. If you don’t stand by your word they will test you and push and run right over you. And trust me when you draw a line they will challenge it and facing my CG down, showing him I meant what I said, was very, very hard. Because part of you aches for them. I wish you luck and hope to hear from you in the future. I know I have found help, comfort and strength from this group.