Thank you velvet for your reply. I regret very much i couldn’t stay and talk with you yesterday and get some advice. I hope to be able to do that next week.
I haven’t told him about the support i have. I’m a bit unsure if that would be good idea for now cuz he would then know i have learnt a lot and in some moments i will know how to behave with his addiction, plus he might start reading and find the way to stop me trying to live my life and use it against me and also i think at the moment he would not understand any reason why i done that. What is your opinion about telling your cg for having support for yourself?
Telling his sister and dad only means that they are aware of him gambling again and they don’t fall in his trap. None of us know what else we can do for him. His sister and all his family tried to tell him to get support but he refuses. We all tried to talk with him calmly but serious about help. We tried to scare and that didn’t help. They even stopped talking to him for a while but failed too. All his family treat him good, they try to involve him in things, take him weekends to visit siblings but at the same time whenever there is any chance they would remind him to seek help and try to stop gambling. He always minimise it and says he’s not doing anything. I’m sure he would have great support from them if only he would like to listen to any advice given by them. I know i can always come and stay at their house if anything happens. But it’s just that helplessnes that is hung in the air. None of us can change him, none of us knows what to do but we all know that carrying on like that it’s not an option and there has to be some action taken. Waiting and waiting for him to realise the support is the only way to stop might take donkeys years and who wants to wait that long.
