Thanks FG for your post! I am trying to live in the present. I know that gambling would really screw up my life but that doesn’t stop the urges I have every so often. I must be strong and not give in. I went to the post office today and mailed my Aunt and Sister, Nephew and Great Niece their Christmas gifts. My Mom and I went to the movies this afternoon. Very enjoyable. My Sister called my Mom with a gloom and doom story. In the process she said things that contradict things she has said before. In other words, she lied and my Mom caught on. What I don’t understand is why you would want to upset your elderly Mother. Very selfish and self centered. I know you can’t change anyone, you have to accept them but you don’t have to agree. My Mom is going to come over when I start my Christmas baking to help. She asked me if she could. I am starting to get my boundaries with her more in place. I know when we’ve been together long enough and when it’s time for me to leave. She does continue to try to intersect herself in every facet of my life but I intervene and stop her. It causes less stress and arguments. Yesterday when we went for breakfast, I observed that she is really afraid of change and if she doesn’t understand something she just ignores it like it is going away. When I get frustrated with her, I try to think in a compassionate way. She is my only parent and that when she passes, I will miss her.
