Does this mean that you are not going to be divorced and will be staying together? If so, then I am sure you will be happy because I know losing access to your family was really troubling you.
It is great that you have shared that you are posting here and you may wish to let her know about the “families and friends” area of the website – so that she is aware of what to look out for in terms of your recovery.
Things are still very fresh for you – and you must ensure that you speak out if you are getting urges or temptations to gamble. I know when I was very involved with a self-help group and spending a lot of time helping others, the pressure got to me and led me back to gambling (if only a few small occurrences.) It is not selfish to put yourself first, rather it is self-ful, in that you are putting your recovery first. Take care. I wish you well.