Not much to report on my cg front. He told me to back off (in a nice way) and that’s what I am doing. When he calls he now asked if I am okay and we don’t talk about gambling any more. We have more ‘adult’ conversations and I am letting him get on with his own life. I miss him but I don’t miss the drama.
In relation to my own recovery, I worked hard to re-wire some core beliefs I had and by doing so, I don’t now get the ‘gut wrenching fear’ that I once did. If I am now faced with the same triggers I don’t have a reaction to them, it’s wonderful! I’ve just read this quote and it sums up how powerful core beliefs are and our reaction to new information. Something to ponder on a Monday morning 🙂
“Sometimes people hold a core belief that is very strong. When they are presented with evidence that works against that belief, the new evidence cannot be accepted. It would create a feeling that is extremely uncomfortable, called cognitive dissonance. And because it is so important to protect the core belief, they will rationalize, ignore and even deny anything that doesn’t fit in with the core belief.”
Wishing everyone continued strength and successful recoveries. San x