Hi Velvet,
Thank you for your reply :). I work a lot and spend a lot of time with my siblings as they truly are my best friends. I catch up with friends and have dinner etc but I’m saving for my own home so trying to cut all of that down. Plus, all my friends are engaged and having babies so I feel sad a lot of the time when I’m with them as they have everything I wish for. I am happy for them of course but also envious and sad.
He is 33 years old. I had to message him the other day as on top of his gambling I had heard that he was in contact with an ex partner. He was very cold towards me and said our relationship was over and blocked me (although I ended it two weeks ago as previously stated). That’s very unusual behaviour and he’s never reacted to me in that way before or blocked me. I am very hurt as out of everyone I have stuck by him, supported him whilst making him take accountability and this is how he treats me. I feel very humiliated and embarrassed.
He recently blocked himself on all line sites. I’m not sure how that works but he felt better about it and seemed positive, he also attends counselling. The thing is I don’t know a huge amount about gambling so not sure if these are good things or if he could be doing more. He seems angry at me, maybe for cutting him off but I had no choice. I’m sad that it’s likely he will sort himself out for his ex who he claimed to be so unhappy with but couldn’t for me.
He has had this issue for 10 years. He can’t even stop for his Dad I guess so why would he for me. His Dad is likely to not be able to retire because he wouldn’t be able to afford to after all the help he has given. He’s a very selfish person and I guess he may stop for her but it’s likely he will do it again at some point. I wish I could just keep telling myself I’m better off but it just all hurts so bad. Heartbreak really is the worst, especially when you know they could have a wonderful life if they could get better. X