24 August 2010 at 10:28 pm #16723carter123Participant
Hi my name is Darcy and i am a compulsive gambler, i have know it for sometime however i am finding it really hard to stay away from the Video terminal (VLT) or one armed bandits as some people know them. I have tried before and i went 20 day with playing and then, i think i got complacent with life and start to think that i was not a compulsive gambler, but soon i was right back to where i was before the 20 days. So with any luck and gods help and this form i will start again and i will make the 30 day. So here to a new begging i will keep you posted cause i know it helps me to read other peoples post on here.
25 August 2010 at 12:54 am #16724paul315Participant
Originally posted by carter123 (June 5, 2010)
… This time is different …
Originally posted by carter123
… Hi my name is Darcy and i am a compulsive gambler…
Good evening Darcy,
You first introduced yourself as being a compulsive person and used that as an excuse for compulsive gambling. Last time you showed a desire to stop because things were different; things may have been different then but you stayed the same, and only delayed your gambling activities a few weeks. Now you are back and you begin with "i am a compulsive gambler"; this is showing some change in you, this is showing that you can change and things can be different, including yourself.
However, your being different and things being different does not make recovery any easier, just more possible. To make recovery work there are more differences that need to take place; as Colin asked earlier, "What are you going to DO differently? Make yourself accountable for your finances? Get to GA meetings?". Making these type changes will allow you to accumulate more time being gambling free, will help you to get to 30 days and beyond; allow you to reach a point where complacency can develop into a concern and not just an excuse to return to gambling after a week or two of being away.
Keep coming back to this site, keep posting, and look for ways to help, look for barriers that you can put in place and ways to restrict access to funds. This too will add differences to the way you go about your recovery; taking actions and making changes in your life will make a real difference in the way things will be.
And, speaking of differences, congratulations of being a new father, on the birth of your new child.
God’s speed. Stay strong. Make changes, make things different. Larry"Day Two Is Another Day Behind" – With the help of a Higher Power, My 3G’s – God, GA, and GT, I will continue to be gambling free.
26 August 2010 at 2:55 am #16725pParticipant
Glad you are here and recognizing your addiction for what it is, some people never do.. keep posting, go to groups, maybe try GA
P – Living and Learning
26 August 2010 at 4:16 pm #16726colin in brumParticipant
Hi Carter and welcome back. I remember you posting in June. Did you keep up the GA meetings? I just had a look and i see you are married. Im sure your wife will have heard all the "never again" promises before – what can you do differently this time? Can your wife hold your cash etc? If you don’t carry cash and are accountable for what money you do have thyen you wont be able to gamble. It’d also give your wife cause to think " Hey maybe he means it this time".
The actions that will help you stop gambling are the SAME actions that will help rebuild trust etc with your wife. Keep posting and let us know what positive actions you are taking.
27 August 2010 at 8:53 pm #16727pParticipant
just moving all the pink envelopes to front page so they get answered
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