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    • #12604
      bonkers
      Participant

      I have just completed my time as a resident at the Gordon Moody Association in Beckenham. Before I came here I was in a very bad place; stealing, bank loans, maxing out credit cards. All this thanks to decades of compulsive gambling. Ultimately I attempted suicide.
      I’m leaving here a better person, i’m more open minded and have developed an awareness of what led to my problem. The staff at Gordon Moody are great; non judgemental, firm but fair. The programme isn’t easy, many tears were shed along the way, lots of soul searching done. But with determination and a willingness to listen, being prepared to leave my comfort zone, I have grown up. I’ve come through the dark times and can see light at the end of the tunnel. This goes for anyone who enters recovery, if you want it badly enough, you can do it..
      Yet you can’t do it alone. Think of all you have lost already, if you are reading this and wondering about whether stopping gambling is for you, take it from me that it is worth it. Don’t end up like I did before I got on the ‘phone to Gordon Moody and my life took a turn for the better. Onwards and upwards

    • #12605
      bonkers
      Participant

      thanks dave, i enjoy monday meetings,they are inportent to my long journey ahead,and im taking velvets advice,
      best wishes bonkersOnwards and upwards

    • #12606
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi all
      well i passed 2nd interview .and last night got phone call to say i got the job;that was the news i wanted and i start on the 20aug.on the 9aug i renew my wedding vows followed by 7days hol in scotland,weather in blackpool awfull.i hope every bodys journey is going well,and will post again soon
      best wishes to all bonkersOnwards and upwards

    • #12607
      Anonymous
      Guest

      Nice one mate, am really pleased for you, what a difference and what a change from a few months ago.
      All the best.
      Geordie.Living a life instead of living a ***…..Recovery is priceless.

    • #12608
      Anonymous
      Guest

      Great news indeed. Everything seems to be falling into place, all bar the weather in Blackpool, about which there isn’t much you can do. Still, you’ll be used to it by the time you get to Scotland!
      See you in group on Monday. Have a lovely weekend. 

    • #12609
      bonkers
      Participant

      HI ALL.well another weekend has arrived,in the bad old days every day was the same,but now i find myself enjoying them,i have a very large cd collection of 50 and 60 music,which i now find more time to listen to;been a good week as my last post said;just 5 days till my wedding vows and hols,i hope all is well with all fellow forum freinds,have alovely weekend where ever you are.
      best wishes bonkersOnwards and upwards

    • #12610
      velvet
      Moderator

       
      Hi Bonkers
      Your music collection sounds great. I hope it includes many Roy Orbison, Billy Fury, Elvis and Buddy Holly.
      The sweetest music comes from listening to recovery though and I love hearing it.
      How long have you been married?   Best wishes to you and your wife on this occasion which you will ‘both’ justly deserve.  
      I’m glad you got the job – it is a relief to hear that an employer still want someone who is Bonkers in their employment – gives me hope.
      Velvet

    • #12611
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi velvet thanks for your reply,married 9 years. and have all those artists plus 100s more, im  a gene pitney marty wilde,craig douglas ,and have been to see many artists live,and yes even being bonkers can still get you a job
      best wishes bonkers xOnwards and upwards

    • #12612
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi all.final message for 10 days.away on holiday and wedding vows.very much looking forward to both.but very nervous,dont know why,especially with things going very well at the moment;its our 1st holiday since my gambling days.so will be nice to have nothing to distract my attention for once,weather seems to be getting warmer in the north,and dont worry VELVET taking plenty of old music with me,i ncluding the big o.wishing all luck on thier journey.
      love and best wishes bonkersOnwards and upwards

    • #12613
      vera
      Participant

      I have been following your thread, Bonkers! Amazing how things turn around when we stop gambling!
      Enjoy your second honeymoon!

    • #12614
      Anonymous
      Guest

      Enjoy it Bonkers, things do go well when you’re not gambling, no reason why they shouldn’t. Make the most of it mate, plenty hard work for you when you get back! Take care. P.Living a life instead of living a ***…..Recovery is priceless.

    • #12615
      looby loo
      Participant

      I have been reading Bonkers and wish you and your wife a wonderful renewal ceremony tomorrow and a great 2nd honeymoon xx what a LIFE xxxEveryone has a destiny, it’s up to us whether we choose to follow it though !Looby Loo

    • #12616
      bonkers
      Participant

      well another year over.and a new one begins,had a great xmas and a nice new year,got very emotional on new year eve,memorys of the past year came back,and it was probably saying how far ive come,that i took time to reflect on past history for a few mins.but now onwards and upwards,and carry on rebuilding,glad to see the back of xmas food,and to get back to the normal,hope you all had a good xmas and have a great year ahead.just been on the road to pick my grandsons birthday card and noticed in local bookies window come inside for great give aways,laughed to myself and thought they shuold rephrase it.TO COME INSIDE ANDGIVE YOUR CASH AWAY.good bless for now
      BONKERS XXOnwards and upwards

    • #12617
      bonkers
      Participant

      ***** from a very wet blackpool,hope u are all well and the new year has started off well.went on line with gordon ***** ex residents last nigfht,i was suprised how everyone was so up beat about the future ahead,people who i have got to know really well have a new spring in thier step,thier were no doubts about what was ahead for them,they all now like myself have a meaning in life,im meeting up with some of them in london in febuary,and cant wait to share our progress together,but sadly i know thier will be some who are still struggling with gambling who i knew from gordon ***** and now sadly i have know contact.it is to those people,i say get on line or on the forum again so we can help eachother,as a flash of thunder strikes,im now off to work,so will post again soon.
      good luck good health to all,
      best wishes BONKERS

    • #12618
      velvet
      Moderator

       
      Dear Bonkers
      As long as you keep that moon up there for the stragglers to see you will be a beacon in a dark night – even if a strange colour. I have never been to Blackpool, wet or dry but it sounds worth a visit if only to see that blue Moon and a Bonkers special person enjoying his life.  
      I love to hear there is a spring in the step of the ex res and look forward to news of the February reunion – I only wish I could be there. So much optimism and courage all together in one place.   I’m not sure I can match that apart from country dancing on Monday evenings where optimism reigns that I ‘might’ get the right step and courage for when I hear my name yelled again as I grab the wrong partner – who probably will need more courage than me!
      I am glad you have passed the one year mark – I know it is just one day but I am delighted to congratulate you and say how proud it makes me to read about your success.   In case you are wondering why I should be proud, as the success is yours, I find I am proud of each and every CG who turns their life around.   As a non-CGs I cannot know how I would have dealt with the addiction if I had owned it.   I would like to think I would have had the courage that you and my CG have shown.   As it is I only admire from the sidelines those who take the leap of faith and join in with the happiness that control brings.
      I wrote this last night and forgot to post it – not sure what that says about me!
      Your posts are a pleasure Bonkers
      V
       

    • #12619
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi all,sorry i havent posted for a few weeks,been a little hectic work wise ,and  ive had a bad virus bug thats had me in  bed last 4 days,im off to london on monday,to see everyone at gordon *****,and to attend monthly out reach meeting.its a year since i had my treatment,and when i lookback i dont know how i can ever repay thier help they gave me,my reason for going is to show them thier help is still needed, and show them ,hope fully that thier work has made me a better person.i feel excited about the trip.gambling wise nothing to report,i dont think about it anymore,and now its just part of my past,but always cautious that it doesnt return.LOOBY LOO,VELVET,GOING TO DO SOME MORE DANCING IN THE ISLES,GOING TO SEE THE JERSEY BOYS IN LONDON IN MAY.AND JUST HAD A LETTER FROM SOUTHPORT ABOUT SOLID GOLD SIXTIES NIGHT IN END OF FEB,fancy a boogie you 2.I WILL LET YOU ALL KNOW HOW LONDON GOES NEXT WEEK,UNTILL THEN.
      ALL THE BEST BONKERSOnwards and upwards

    • #12620
      paul315
      Participant

      Originally posted by bonkers
      .. i dont know how i can ever repay thier help they gave …
      Onwards and upwards
      Good morning Bonkers,
      Good to hear form you and that things arg going good, in spite of the illness and hectic work — some of the everyday disappoinment that still happen when we don’t gamble, but in not gambling we can handle them better.
      In recovery the ones finding the help they need do not have to pay back anything, instead we have found that we pay forward to others that are coming for help after us. A catch phrase started by those in recovery, yet has somehow now filtered into other activities, even in commercials for the lottery here in the Sates; but nevertheless "Paying it Forward" is all that we can do when paying back is not expected or even possible — it is like moving "Onwards and upwards, and not back.
      Enjoy your time in London.  I was fortunate to have seen two shows there, the theatre offers a much better form of enjoyment and any needed time of escape from our worries than gambling ever did or could.  And get all you can out of your outreach meeting, keep aware of what you need, where you are, and how you got there — stopping gambling is not hard, staying stopped is what ***** our diligent work and unwavering desire.
      God’s speed. Stay strong. Keep aware. And stay thankful while paying forward what way freely given to you.LarryThanks to my Higher Power, My 3G's – God, GA, and GT,  "Day Two Is Another Day Behind" and with the help from all I hope to continue to remain gambling free.

    • #12621
      bonkers
      Participant

      well not one of my best weeks,waiting to hear if i will keep my job,or maybe lose it after firm decided to do some health checks,i have a pacemaker which i decided not to tell them,so they are waiting report from doctors,but what will be will be.my youngest daughter had a baby girl on saturday,we havent spoke for 2 years,owing to her way of life im not happy with,so feel a bit put out ,wont let me see grand daughter, but again its her choice and should she change her mind .she knows were i am.now for some postive news,no gambling problems alls well on that *****,and going to a mowtown show in southport on saturday.see you thier LOOBY LOO,VELVET. and we will dance the night away.
      best wishes to all BONKERSOnwards and upwards

    • #12622
      vera
      Participant

      ‘Hope all goes well with your job Bonkers. If you are able to carry out your duties you should get a favourable medical report. I can see why you didnt tell them about the pacemaker…I was sent to Occ Health last year and like a fool revealed too much. It was all slapped up to me at a "feedback" meeting with admin. Suffice to say the doc in Occ Health was very apologetic when I went back to confront her for breach of confidentiality. She said it wont happen again….It sure won’t because my union rep will be with me next time.  Are you in a Union B?
      Congrats on the birth of your grand daughter. Try to see her so you two can bond when she is still "new!"

    • #12623
      bonkers
      Participant

      sadly vera no,Onwards and upwards

    • #12624
      bonkers
      Participant

      ***** everyone,hope you are all well,got back home last night from calpe in spain,had 10days out thier with my wife lesley,it was the best break in years,we got on so well,the past years of gambling forgotten,the hurt slowly moving away,and allthough we both know never to, forget entirely.life is so good now for us both,got a nice tan, and ready to go back to work on monday with a smile.job is safe now after a long wait,and ive seen my new grandauhter,i tried to put things behind what happend in the past,and hopefully now after 3years we can know have a father and daughter relationship.so for myself i feel im now in a good position in my life,and through all my freinds at gordon *****,and my forum freinds,i thank you all,so for now have a good week,and let those small steps become big ones
      best wishes to all bonkers and lesley xOnwards and upwards

    • #12625
      looby loo
      Participant

      Hi Bonkers
      What a lovely update. So glad you enjoyed your break away and your job is safe 🙂 You are right, you should never forget, but you are living proof that life can be good, if recovery is embraced fully. Get on with your life as best you can knowing that your continued recovery is in your hands. I am glad you have seen your grandaughter and hopefully over time the wounds can be healed(our new grandson is due in less than 4 weeks too – special *****). On the music front we are off to see The Jersey Boys in London on Sunday, with a pre-show dinner and travel all paid for – a gift from a few family/friends for our 30th Wedding Anniversary a couple of weeks ago, so looking forward to it. Take care of you. x
      Everyone has a destiny, it's up to us whether we choose to follow it though !Looby Loo

    • #12626
      neva
      Participant

      Bonkers, you’re proof that there is life after gambling…and it’s a very good life. Congratulations!

    • #12627
      Anonymous
      Guest

      What a fantastic update Bonkers. I’m delighted for you and all your family. I was thinking about you on Monday night; I imagine that was good fun! Looking forward to seeing you back in the Monday night group soon.
      Dave

    • #12628
      vera
      Participant

      Happy to hear you have seen your new grand daughter Bonkers!
      New life brings new hope!
      Here’s to a G free future! Keep posting ! We need people like you to give HOPE to the stragglers!
      Every time I read about your success I think , " I can do that!"
      Thanks Bonkers! and thank God your job is safe too!

    • #12629
      bonkers
      Participant

      THANK YOU ,VERA,LOOBY LOO,NERA.DAVE.FOR YOUR KIND WORDS,I LOPVE TO HERE FROM YOU ALL,AND LOOBY LOO ENJOY THE JERSEY BOYS AND HAVE A GREAT ANNIVERSARY AND LET ME KNOW WHEN YOUR GRAND CHILD IS BORN,
      BEST WISHES BONKERS XOnwards and upwards

    • #12630
      looby loo
      Participant

      Hey Bonkers, hope you enjoyed the Jersey Boys and the meet up at GH. Still no baby boy, he is obviously too comfy in mummy’s tum. Daughter having small procedure to see if it will encourage him on Monday, if not induction planned for next weekend, so imminent any way round. Glad to hear things are progressing well with your daughter/grand daughter, as you say Onwards and Upwards mate Everyone has a destiny, it's up to us whether we choose to follow it though !Looby Loo

    • #12631
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi all,just back from london,the show was really good,and lesley enjoyed meeting everyone from gordon *****,we went out for lunch with my counciler and im sure lesley now understands a lot more about it all,stayed the weekend at lesley sisters,and sore some of the sights,im glad ive given up gambling at the show a pint of lager was 9pounds,ha ha ,hope alliwent well looby loo on monday,and looking forward to hearing your a grandma again,so lbest wishes to you all
       loads of love BONKERSOnwards and upwards

    • #12632
      vera
      Participant

      £ 9 for a pint of lager!
      At that price every dry ********* must be laughing!
      Just think, Bonkers,if you were still gambling you most likely would not have been at that show…your wife certainly would not have had lunch with your counsellor or have met your ex GM friends.
      Good things happen to good people! odaat!
      I find your posts very inspiring. Full of hope from all struggling CGs!
      Thanks for showing us a true insight into Recovery Bonkers!
       

    • #12633
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi friends from a very sunny blackpool,hope all is well,and your journeys are moving on nicely,been a very busy couple of weeks for me ,worked 14 days none stop ,very busy at work with it being half term.life going well and family life great,did get some sad news   from a ex Gordon ***** buddy,that sadly he has relapsed,and has been gambling since feb,i just hope after 9our con versation my advice helps him to act now,HOPE LOOBY LOO YOUR ENJOYING YOUR NEW GRANDCHILD,AND IM THINKING OF TAKING WIFE TO SEE DIRTY DANCING THE MUSICLE IN MANCHESER.
      for now good bye,take care all BEST WISHES BONKERSOnwards and upwards

    • #12634
      looby loo
      Participant

      Hi Bonkers
      We are good ta, grandson is a little beauty 🙂 Glad that life is still treating you grand and I also hope the convo you had with the guy has helped him, but as you know he has choices and ultimately it will be down to him.
      Dirty Dancing sounds fab, I have a couple of friends who have seen it in the smoke and really enjoyed it. We went to see Hairspray in Birmingham last week – 6 girlies, had a fab time, train, coffee, shopping, lunch, show, train – perfect day.
      Catch you again soon. xEveryone has a destiny, it's up to us whether we choose to follow it though !Looby Loo

    • #12635
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi all,bit of a sorry week this week,off work with a spasm in my neck cant move to my left,and in agony,but dosed up to the eyeballs with diazipan and pain killers so hope it will realese it self soon.other wise all well,family are all well,and only 4 weeks till my holiday,gambling thoughts are not their and haven’t been for 18months,on Tuesday it will be a whole year since I left Gordon ***** in Beckenham kent,cant believe whats happened since,hope the next year is just as well.hope everyones journey is on track,and for those going through a little set back,get back on track you can do it.hope your still having great fun with grandchild LOOBY LOO
      best wishes to all bonkersOnwards and upwards

    • #12636
      bonkers
      Participant

      ITS A YEAR TOMORROW,WHEN I LEFT GORDON ***** ***,WHATS HAPPEND IN THAT YEAR HAS CHANGED MY LIFE,I WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO PAY THOSE PEOPLE BACK,BUT THANK YOU MICHELE,DAVE,DAVID,PAULINE,AND ALL THE RESIDENTS PAST AND PRESENT,WITHOUT YOU ALL I WOULDNT BE HERE TODAYOnwards and upwards

    • #12637
      Anonymous
      Guest

      Bonkers, you have paid us back many ***** over; each time you post on here with your updates about your happy life.I wish you many more years like this last one, in fact some even better ones to come. Keep it going.
      Dave

    • #12638
      looby loo
      Participant

      Hope the neck has eased and that you have enjoyed today 🙂 wishing you many more days, weeks and years of recovery, it is no less than you deserve. That cruise is looming now – enjoy every minute of it.Everyone has a destiny, it's up to us whether we choose to follow it though !Looby Loo

    • #12639
      bonkers
      Participant

      well ***** again friends,im back from holiday,having had a wonderful cruise,visiting pompei,the Vatican,naples,tolouse,monaco,nice,monaco.and many more,it was a great experience for me and Lesley.ive missed my time on the forum,and im now back on track with my gambling free life,i hope you are all well and things are all going good for you all,and looby loo I hope grand child is giving you great pleasure.so for now good by,best wishes bonkersOnwards and upwards

    • #12640
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi all,just about getting my head around the new site,not sure its better than the last one,alls well my end busy at work,and seeing grandchildren.hope looby loo your family are well,and your having great times with your grandchild.going to see SLADE AND SWEET in December,do you fancy put on the glam rock outfit looby loo,good luck to all

    • #12641
      Dunc
      Keymaster

      Hi Bonkers

      Im sorry your unsure of the new design, Give it time please

      Take Care Harry

    • #12642
      looby loo
      Participant

      Hi Bonkers
      Glad to hear’ alls well your end’, we are good thanks, grandson is now 5 months old – not sure where the time has gone and grand daughter is now 3!!. We are just back from a week on the greek island of Lesvos which was wonderful, lovely weather, lovely people, lovely time.
      SLADE & SWEET what a blast from the past, I have a vision of you and Lesley ………………………. Great to hear from you x

    • #12643
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi all,first time on for a few weeks.things still going great,looking forward to xmas,although working 4 hours xmas day.life is good no thouights of gambling now for 2 years,LOOBY LOO YOU MIST A GREAT NIGHT,SWEET AND SLADE KNOCKING OUT THOSE HITS,LITTLE WILLY,BLOCKBUSTER,MAMA WE ALL CRAZY NOW ,TO NAME A FEW/what a great night,i hope all my forum friends are doing well,and life is good,hope to be on before xmas ,but if not a merry xmas to you all,and a gambling free new year,and looby loo enjoy your first xmas with your lovely grandson ,best wishes bonkers and family

    • #12644
      p
      Participant

      Hi and congratulations on recovery. That is a great length of time to be gamble free, any time is but getting years to me is amazing. Well done, so good to see your post and see that this gambling free life is achievable, thanks for being an example.

      P

    • #12645
      desdemona
      Participant

      Hi (((Bonkers)))! I don’t know if you remember me as I used to post under Carole8755. I’ve been around the GT site for about 2 1/2 years. You are an inspiration with all your gamble free time. It sounds like you have a wonderful wife who has been there for you during your recovery. Staying gamble free goes a long way to healing the hurts we have inflicted on those we love. Grandchildren are such blessings!! Carole

    • #12646
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi carole,rember you very well,nice to hear from you,and glad your still posting,thanks for your kind words,and have a happy xmas,and new year

    • #12647
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi all,just a quick apology to you all,and especially looby loo.i haven’t quite got my head around the new format on the forum website,so my last post to looby loo was incorrect,i promise to get my brain into gear infuture.best wishes bonkers,alias mr thicko

    • #12648
      finding_laura
      Participant

      on your gamble free time and dedication to recovery 🙂 The new site will become familiar, much as recovery behaviours have now become familiar. Not to be taken for granted or be complacent about for sure, but familiar. As I have more recovery time behind me it is the gambling that seems foreign and unfamiliar. Your thread will offer a lot of hope to someone who is still stuck in their gambling ways. Hope you and yours have a Merry Christmas. Take care,
      Laura

    • #12649
      bonkers
      Participant

      hope everyone had a lovely xmas.and a happy new year.myself and family had a nice time,and now a new year begins and we all have hope and dreams for the future ahead,already booked some holidays for next year,and im hoping to become a lisner for the Samaritans in next couple of months.hope all my friends are well,and look forward to hearing from you soon,best wishes bonkers

    • #12650
      charles
      Moderator

      Nice one Bonkers. I had lots dreams when I was gambling, The difference in recovery is we can expect some of them to come true. 🙂 It sounds like some of yours certainly are, well done.

    • #12651
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi all,hope you are al well,work going well and really busy,not been on for awhile,i hope looby loo,katherine,carole,are all doing well,would be nice to hear from you all,weather here in blackpool very cold.lesley,and my children all doing well,and most of all no gambling now for 2years 2 months,best wishes bonkers

    • #12652
      dave_gma
      Participant

      Hi Bonkers,

      Nice to see your update and to hear that things are ticking along nicely for you and your family. Two years clean time is no mean achievement, well done. You’ve crammed so many things into that time as well; cruises, theatre trips, football matches. You’re truly embracing recovery and all that life offers.

      Dave

    • #12653
      vera
      Participant

      Good to hear that you’re on the up and up, Bonkers!
      Your wife and family have been given a new lease of life through your recovery!
      Well done!
      Goes to show there is a life out there when we grasp it.

    • #12654
      desdemona
      Participant

      Congratulations (((Bonkers))) on over 2 years of sanity!!! You are one of the blessed ones that didn’t lose their spouse over an addiction. It sounds like you and your wife enjoy each other still. Way to go!! Carole

    • #12655
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi looby loo,hope you and your family are well.not heard from you for a while ,I would think your grandchild is growing up fast,and I expect like me you get plenty of babty sitting duties,hope to hear from you soon,to all my other forum friends .life is going well,and having lots of fun,hope all of you out their are the same,for now goodbye and godbless you all

    • #12656
      velvet
      Moderator

      Hi Bonkers
      It is great to see you doing well – successes in this forum bring joy and hope to the F&F forum too.
      It would be great to know f you have been accepted by the Samaritans. I think that the understanding you have gained by your addiction and your subsequent fight to control it will be invaluable.
      Keep posting
      Great post
      Velvet

    • #12657
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi all,just a few lines to let you know whats happening,went to Wembley last week to see my beloved man city win the cup.lesley was their as well and we had a great time with all the blues,then it was back to work were we are having a major redevelpoement with new changing rooms ato match our state of the art gym.so very busy fhier,its Monday so im on line with g moody,i get a lot out of it,and like to listen how others are progressing.goimg to a show on Saturday with Lesley,musis Frankie valie.so that’s all my end love to all.bonkers x

    • #12658
      bonkers
      Participant

      4 years ago myself and Lesley went to scarboro,it was when my gambling had got out of control,we didn’t enjoy it,i was lying and hiding my gambling problem,lesley new I was not telling the truth,and the holiday was a disaster,but on our return,we have put all our troubles behind us and had a lovely time,what a difference 4 years can make.and I hope that sends a message out to those who are struggling,thier is light at the end of the tunnel,you just need to tell your love ones the truth,and with help along the way,you will come out the otherside,best wishes bonkers x

    • #12659
      looby loo
      Participant

      Hi Bonkers
      Been reading a bit here this evening. Glad to see that all is still going well for you and your family. Little man will be 1 in 2 weeks time on 15 May – cant quite believe where the year has gone and grandaughter starts school in September, both as cute as can be. We have a family holiday planned for next week to Menorca – should be fun. Take care Loobs x

    • #12660
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi looby loo,great to hear from you,time flys and your little man will be 2 soon,and granddaughter starts school,lots to lookforward to,and I hope your holiday is a great one,i was their 2 years ago,im sure you will love it,still going to the odd gig,a 60s gold could be my next one,my work is going well,and life is good,so for now its good bye,and hope to haer from you soon,and enjoy your family x

    • #12661
      bonkers
      Participant

      on my way to work ,last Wednesday,i bumped into a guy who I new from my gambling days,in conversation I asked him hows the family,he replied I don’t see them much now they have meved to luton,and my wife is divorcing me,and I only see children every other month,it was the gambling and lies,it won in the end ,and now im deep in debt with no way out,i gave him Gordon moodeys number,but he replied I don’t need it,i love betting and I don’t think I could change,so I bid him goodbye,and for a second thought that could have been me,and now I only hope he gets help,

    • #12662
      vera
      Participant

      Stark reminder of what gambling does to CGs, Bonkers!

      “There but for the grace of God go I!”

    • #12663
      Anonymous
      Guest

      Could be any of us on here if we allow gambling to get us again. I can remember the days when I thought I’d never end up “that bad” I can also remember the times I’ve slept in bus stops and fields, I’ve put myself in jeopardy of ending back there everytime I have gambled. But thankfully I’m not back in that predicament, and the way to make sure, for any of us, of not ending up there is to carry on living one day at a time without a bet.

    • #12664
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi friends ,haven’t been on for a while.so I will fill you in on whats happened,had a lovely holiday in Portugal with Lesley,it was 2 weeks of lovely sunshine,still working very hard,and most of all,no sign of gambling nearly 3 years now,,health wise,things not to good at the moment,5years ago I had major surgery on my left shoulder.and now im in agony with my right,and after seeing specialist I need the same on my right.but never mind it could be worse,and their are people worse off.i hope alls well with you all,and life is good,so until next time take care and best wishes bonkers

    • #12665
      p
      Participant

      Wow thank you for the update.. so good to hear you are 3 years gamble free.. that is amazing.. i can only imagine and hope that i will continue as you have done and got on with your life with out gambling in it.. wonderful to see your success story, i hope that all works out with your shoulder.. would certainly be hurting a lot more if you were gambling..

      P

    • #12666
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi looby loo,i was wondering how you are,and how your grandchild is growng up fast,been to a couple of gigs,have one planned in December,and hoping to go to London and see a show soon,work is going well,and no gambling in 3 years,i hope your end is the same,and life is treating you good take care,and hope to hear from you soon x

    • #12667
      bonkers
      Participant

      hello friends,just got back a week ago from calpe in spain,myself and Lesley had a lovely time,we are on our way to a move,we have had a offer accepted on a bungalow ,and hope fully fingers crossed in new year we will move in,its a very busy time at work,we have a fit camp weekend goming up,and with xmas weeks away ,ribby hall is almost full every week,apart from a bad shoulder that will need surgery alls well.i hope all my friends on here are all well,i will post again xmas week,untill then ,best wishes bonkers

    • #12668
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi friends, just a quick up date,had a shoulder operation ,just before xmas,and now on the mend and hoping to be back in work in 2 weeks,and moved house on 29th dac,on the sea front at clevelys blackpool,wake up in the morning to the sound of the sea and seagulls.and when I open curtains you see the sea coming in,its our last move ,we are both al,most 6o, so it s our retirement home,,,hope you all had a lovely xmas,and hopefully a great new year ahead,hope vera,geordie,looby loo,are all well,for now good by good luck,,,best wishes bonkers

    • #12669
      Anonymous
      Guest

      great to read bonkers, any plans to keep a couple of donkeys in the garden, to make a few quid during your golden years 🙂

    • #12670
      vera
      Participant

      Shoulder operation sounds painful, Bonkers! Thank God you got over it fast!
      Moving to live near the sea used to be my dream
      That was when my comfort zone was the arcade/casino near that sea!
      Five minutes on the beach. Fifteen hours in the slots!
      You know the pitfalls, Bonkers!
      Enjoy the seaside!
      You are an inspiration!
      Here’s to a G free future. Odaat!

    • #12671
      bonkers
      Participant

      BACKED TO MANYTHEM IN THE BAD OLD DAYS,YOU SEEM IN A GOOD PLACE GEORDIE,AND ITS GREAT TO SEE YOU DOING WELL.SEE YOU SOON PAL

    • #12672
      bonkers
      Participant

      WE ARE BOTH WISER NOW VERA,,,AND DREAMS CAN COME TRUE,TAKE CARE AND BEST WISHES,AND YOUR NOT A BAD INSPERATION YOUR SELF XX

    • #12673
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi all,
      well its all change my end,after having shoulder operation and moving,i decided with Lesley its time to enjoy our life by the sea,im now looking for some partime work just to keep active, having not been to well of late,i realise their is more to life than money,when gambling all that matterd was money now I see things for what they are.having had operation I would like to say it was a success,but sadly that is not the case.im going to visit my friends at Gordon moody on 13 march,and take Michele my counciler for some lunch,it will be great to see the gang,and to talk to some of the residents and see how they are coping,and maybe offer some advice a long the way,if needed,hope alls well with GEORDIE,VERS, PAULINE,LOOBY LOO,AND EVERYONE ELSE ON THE FORUM,for now good by good luck ,will post on my return from london

    • #12674
      bonkers
      Participant

      well how nice it was to see all the gang at Beckenham gmoody,had a nice bit of lunch with Michele my counciler when I was their 3 years ago,without her faith in me I would not be where I am today,i went to the outreach meeting which is run every 2 weeks by david,another person who has always been their for me,it was nice to talk to some guys just finishing their period at Beckenham,and offer some advice where it was needed,and listen to another exresident who now is in happier times,i spent an hour walking around Beckenham remembering the times I had their,even though they were sad times,it is nice now to see how it is in different circumstances,and its a big part of my life,which without doubt led me to be here today,so to all forum friends past and present,and all future residents hang on in their and anything is possible,WITH A BIT OF DEDICATION,and soul searching,good luck and best wishes bonkers

    • #12675
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi all,lovely sunny day in blackpool,and I hope I find you all well,life is good at the moment,still gambling free 3 years and 5 months,,,started anew job 3 weeks ago and its going well,shoulder still not quite right but we cant have everything,sometimes I lokk back,and I cant believe im in this place where life is normal and bookies no longer excist,sadly I realise I was lucky and their are still so many going through the pain we all know,,to them people I can only hope they get help and are able to move on,so for now friends its good by,take care and I will post soon x

    • #12676
      si
      Participant

      Hey Bonkers, it’s Si from G M ! Hope you remember me.
      I’m well, living in Eastbourne, East Sussex.
      Still miss life in Beckenham…loved the structure and support we had there.
      I still attend G A and because I found my Father back in February, this rekindled my old triggers (even though its been absolutely brilliant meeting new family, Dad , brothers and sister) have been attending counselling through GamCare since, which has been so helpful. will try and hook up on a Monday with you. Are you in touch with Dave C or anyone else from our time there?
      Hope all is good for you. Look forward to playing you next season…expect a walloping lol , Si

    • #12677
      p
      Participant

      Congrats on your gamble free time that is truly amazing, i hope the move goes well for you and i hope that your shoulder improves, you never know what life throws your way today hey.. but you are doing it all without gambling so well done

      P

    • #12678
      bonkers
      Participant

      well simon,its great to hear from you,im not in touch with any of old gang,ive moved on now,been working since I left g m,and lifes good,live on the sea front at clevelys near blackpool,and getting ready to retire in a couple of years,its great that you have got to know your family again,and even thou you have had a blip with the gambling ,im sure you can sort that out ,I always rememberd our deep coversations,i found them very interesting,so take care and good luck to you and your family best wishes bonkers,,,,alias tony

    • #12679
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi guys,
      not been on for a few weeks,been on holiday to the Italian lakes,and working till 9 at night during summer holidays,things have calmed down now.and that gives me more time to come on forum,gambling is still a thing of the past,lesley had a big birthday in august,and we went to venice ,and went on a gondolier,iy was my birthday last week,and it was very nice,with a little celebrating meal,life is good,i hope all my friends are doing well,and life is good for you all,take care,i will post again soon,
      best wishes bonkers

    • #12680
      Anonymous
      Guest

      Well I never, were you there mate?

    • #12681
      bonkers
      Participant

      no working m8.how are u Geordie,are things going ok,im coming to London in jan,so I would like to meet up if possible

    • #12682
      bonkers
      Participant

      hi forum friends,
      not been on for awhile,sorry to say health isn’t to good at the moment,
      ive reached 60,and now my body has decided to let me know,im waiting to see the specialist forrumatoide artritus,my feet and hands are swelling up and I have terrible burning in my sole of feet,and palm of my hands,and stiffness in all my joints,despite that life goes on and the gambling is now almost 4 years,,,gamble free,,,im back to work this week,been off for a few weeks,since I haven’t been on ,I was sad to hear Geordie you have been poorly,,i do hope your on the mend now,and I also hope all my friends and forum colleagues are doing well,so for now ,
      take care all.best wishes bonkers

    • #12683
      vera
      Participant

      So sorry to hear you have been unwell , Bonkers.
      Rheumatoid arthritis is a tricky one. Keep your joints protected. Lots of advice and new medication available. Hope you find one that helps and that you will have long remissions. Green tea, ginger and turmeric are considered helpful but CHECK WITH YOUR GP.
      Thank God you’re not gambling That would really put the top hat on everything.
      Summer is coming so gentle walking in good weather will keep your spirits up Bonkers.
      Thanks for the update.
      By the way 60is the new 40!!!!!!

    • #12684
      p
      Participant

      Wow 4 years is amazing, congratulations, how does time go that fast, i wish i could say the same.. but i cant.
      I hope that they find a solution to your health and you are more comfortable. Imagine how sick you would be if you were still gambling

      P

    • #12685
      bonkers
      Participant

      thank you both for your kind words,to vera you are so right,60 is the new 40,and if I was gambling I would certainly lost the will to live at this stage with all that’s going on,but thankfully god is with me ,and gambling is a thing of the past and not my future, and to you P,by your post I feel you may be struggling,but you can do it,if not on your own ,with help from the people on here,or by talking to family,for you P ,the future can be good,just go for it,and hopefully in future posts,your posts will be positive,,if its a listning ear you want,im here just post me
      two both you good luck,and best wishes bonkers

    • #12686
      bonkers
      Participant

      THANKS P ,FOR YOUR KIND WORDS,I FEEL YOU MAY BE STRUGGLING AT THE MOMENT,,IF YOU NEED,A LISTNING EAR JUST POST ME,,,WE ALL NEED SOME HELP OR DARE I SAY IT ADVICE,,SO ANY TIME P ,TAKE CARE AND BEST WISHES BONKERS

    • #12687
      vera
      Participant

      ‘Hope you are getting out and about, Bonkers, now that the days are getting longer.
      Enjoy them, one day at a time!

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