5 June 2015 at 12:18 pm #30662
I now know have a gambling problem and need to stop!
5 June 2015 at 12:24 pm #30663
Hi I’m a28 year old female with 2 children a loving partner over the last year my addiction has got worse and worse it first started when I played online bingo only playing once a week most I’d spend would be £10 then I.noticed slots played on them a few times had a few hundred pound wins then I lost intrest in the bingo cos it wasn’t a quick win like the slots were over time its got worse and it’s all Down to the slots and I’m still doing it.to this day I ban myself from sites but then find other sites till I blow money then ill ban it. I haven’t come out a winner for a few months now.cos I put it all bk in I’m really fed up with it feeling moody angry stressed also.lying to family.borrowing money to get by just because I have blow £70 here and there. I rest hate feeling like this so today is.my new day xxx
5 June 2015 at 12:27 pm #30664DuncKeymaster
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties youre currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if youre new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. Were in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like youre not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
And on that note….
Im going to hand you over to our community because Im sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
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5 June 2015 at 12:29 pm #30665
But now I still think I am but other say diffrent xx
5 June 2015 at 12:40 pm #30666
I went. Straight to the supermarket bought all my food paid my dad what I owed him and trey my daughter to some.New clothes haha slots your.not getting my money this week it’s all gone boom!!
5 June 2015 at 12:51 pm #30667DuncKeymaster
xtyvmx such an interesting statement “The thing is I always thought i was in control of my gambling” I still think I am but other say different.
Can a gambling problem distort the truth, sure can and having that self awareness to know that your thoughts are not distorted is hard … but also people will have different views on what a problem is.
Maybe you can talk a little about why you think you’re in control and why others disagree..
5 June 2015 at 1:34 pm #30668
Just I thought I could.stop whenever I wanted too but obviously I was going on day after day but always said to myself. I’ll just stop when I want too.
5 June 2015 at 9:11 pm #30669charlesModerator
Ok xt, I guess we have conflicting thoughts here:
“I now know have a gambling problem and need to stop!”
A later post:
“But now I still think I am (in control) but other say diffrent xx”
I guess you have to make a decision on those two things? Maybe look at the 20 questions they have on the GA website?
Let us know how you score, it may help you make up you mind as to the extent of the problem/ how much “control” any of us have.
5 June 2015 at 10:17 pm #30670
I.got a 8 so I think I have a problem.now.
8 June 2015 at 9:13 pm #30671charlesModerator
Ok, well done on that realisation.
Now you have a 2nd question to ask/answer yourself. You will probably have read on other threads about this being a progressive problem. It’s true, if we carry on gambling the stakes get bigger, the amount of time we spend gambling gets longer. More importantly though the number of “Yeses” we score increases.
So the question we all have to decide on is – do we want to take the tough steps now? maybe some of the steps our addiction is giving us “reasons” not to take? Or later when we are deeper in trouble and those yeses increase?
You have banned yourself from sites? Great of course but as you have found, there are other sites. How about gettign a blocker for your PC? How about finding a way to make yourself accountable for your finances so that you can’t gamble in secret? Can your partner help with that?
The sort of thing that will help us stop gambling, like barriers, using support like here or GA etc serve a dual purpose. As well as making it hard for us to gamble they help start rebuilding trust etc. they give those around us cause to think “Hey, maybe he/she means it this time”
Keep posting and let us know the positive steps you are taking.
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