1 September 2013 at 9:43 am #1261
It’s been 6 days now since my partner of 18 years caused a row so he could clear the bank account out and leave. As he does every 3 months or so, as I sit here worrying not be able to eat or sleep or even know if he’s ok. Take one day at a time.1 September 2013 at 8:29 pm #1262shelly5Participant
I’m so sorry that you are going thru this.1 September 2013 at 9:51 pm #1263
Thankyou shelly5 I really can not believe ive let it happen again. I know the pattern I know i’m going to get hurt yet when he comes home we don’t even discuss the issue. I just feel relieved that he is safe , then in a week or two I bring it up, yes IT the dreaded why have you done it again and once again I get the answer ” if you made me happy and stopped going on I woulden’t gamble” . All his family have known even before I met him 18 years ago I have asked them to help me in the passed with the reply No . So he has no family or friends only me and my family!!!! But now my family are getting annoyed with me and say he is making a fool of me. Which I know they are right, I really need to be strong! I have felt a bit stronger today and realised I have given my all and helped every way possible. It is up to him but passed experience when I stay strong he just moves on to another woman moves in with her. When he realises he loves me he comes home and I am none the wiser about the other woman until months later. By that time iv’e grown to fall back in love with him and tell myself that we were split up when he moved on to his other woman. So as you can imagine now it’s been 6 days since he’s left it’s not .only the thought he has blown all our money, it’s the thought he is charming another woman and blaming me once again. I am sorry for the rant, and sincerely want to thank you for taking the time to respond to my post.Take one day at a time.1 September 2013 at 11:56 pm #1264shelly5Participant
I’m not the best person to give advice. I am dealing with a problem gambler myself. My heart truly goes out to you. It definitely sounds like your being abused. I hope that you can find happiness. Hugs!!!!!2 September 2013 at 4:17 am #1265madge456Participant
So sorry this is happening to you… My husband is a Cg too – but I understand the pain and suffering we go thru when we allow people we love to hurt us.. all I can say is to think only of your ***** – the CG and gambling addition will take care of their own… hugs to you.. must run… XX2 September 2013 at 6:11 am #1266
Thanks shelly5 and I’m feeling your pain too I really hope you find peace of mind soon xx And thankyou madge456 for your kind words and also hope you find peace of mind. It helps so much for the first time ever for me to really open up and write down every thing I have on this forum. With love and thanks for all your kind thoughts and words xxTake one day at a time.2 September 2013 at 6:20 am #1267
Thanks shelly5 and I’m feeling your pain too I really hope you find peace of mind soon xx And thankyou madge456 for your kind words and also hope you find peace of mind. It helps so much for the first time ever for me to really open up and write down every thing I have on this forum. With love and thanks for all your kind thoughts and words xxTake one day at a time.2 September 2013 at 12:26 pm #1268DuncKeymaster
Thank you for posting on the Gambling Therapy forum again.. As you are a GB resident you are entitled to free online support through the Gamcare website at http://www.gamcare.org.uk/ .
As Gambling Therapy are unable to support people from Great Britain anymore can I suggest that you now copy and paste your post into one of the Gamcare forums where you will receive responses from others in a similar situation to you from all over Great Britain.
You can also access online or face to face group support through Gam-Anon
The Gambling Therapy Team25 year poker player, 25 year Hierarchal fool, 25 year ego boost… Intellectualisation was my down fall, simplicity was my salvation
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