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  • #5711
    velvet
    Moderator

    I love facilitating the group and it is doing really well but I am disappointed that there is not enough movement on the forum.

    There are many people who come on the site and read the forum but do not post and I am wondering why.   

     The forum does get quiet at times but sadly the addiction to gamble is in the middle of many families and friends who may feel there is nobody here listening – well there is always somebody listening.  There is no problem with the gambling addiction that is too great or too small to be heard – so If you are reading this and feeling unsure whether to post or not, please just write a line and you will receive a unique reply tailored just for you.  The first post is the hardest but once you are on the radar you will receive judgement-free, understanding support. 

    If you are reading this and you haven’t updated your thread recently then it would be great to hear from you.

    Looking forward to hearing from ‘you’

    Velvet

     

    #5712
    adele
    Participant

    Hi Velvet,

    With your encouragement, I have updated my thread and I have been reading the journeys of many new F&F members with tears in my eyes. I pray you are right – that my story of surviving the addiction to gamble will give others hope, even though I remember a time when I could not think straight and such a story might have stirred unfounded feelings of guilt, envy and anger in my heart.

    Now, I am puzzled with the listings for the Support Groups. I thought I would pop in to your F&F group on Thursday, but it does not show up in the purple timeline section even though it is on the “List” of groups available below that section. And I noticed many of the start times for other groups showing in the purple section do not coincide with the times shown in the “List” of groups.

    I am also confused that some are listed in a 24 hour miltary format, while others appear to be in a 12 hour format and should have a “pm” or “am” after the time.

    It has been a long time since I was logged on … could it just be my GT app needs updating?

    If you can tell me when your group starts in Texas time, and how I can join in even though it isn’t in the purple section, I would appreciate your help!

    Looking forward to chatting with you again soon,
    Adele

    #5713
    velvet
    Moderator

    Hi Adele
    It is puzzling trying to find the F&F group on Thursdays and the easiest way to do it is to click on ‘Helpline’ and then scroll down to ‘F&F group’ and click on ‘join’. It is there on the purple page under ‘Support Groups’ but only the ‘F’ is peeking out behind a ‘Drop in All’ and it is more difficult to hit the ‘F’. This has occurred because I changed my group from Tuesday to Thursday when a group was already running. I am hoping to run another F&F group soon and will post when that will be.
    As for the time, we start bang-on 20.00 hours UK time until 21.00 hours or 8pm – 9pm BST.
    Any more problems – just shout.
    It has been really good to see 2 responses to my plea to update – hopefully others will follow because I am sure that the addiction to gamble has not disappeared causing all those who would have been affected by it not to seek support.
    The person who gave me the most hope to carry on and look after ‘me’ was 15 years into her recovery so although it might feel to some, that those who are in recovery for a long time become remote from the pain, I believe more need to hear that if they keep walking forward and caring for themselves then they can live without the addition to gamble tearing them apart – and not only that they can support the CG they love in the right way. Just for the record the person who helped me see the light is now over 25 years into her recovery and so is her husband.
    I will post Texas time later
    Speak soon
    V

    #5714
    adele
    Participant

    Thanks for the Texas time on F&F Group Velvet. I have a meeting today at 2:00, and my granddaughters will be here next week, but I will pop in soon to say hi!

    Adele

    #5715
    velvet
    Moderator

    I shall look forward to it when you are ready.

    V

    #5716
    lily
    Participant

    Hi V. It is my sons 11th birthday this week so I am off to Legoland with my son, his dad and my step-grandson. It’s an agreement I made my son a long time ago that once a year he can have Mum and Dad with him together. It’s not my favourite but we have a civilised relationship now at least. This year it will be three days in his company which may be a stretch for me but I am sure we will manage with the two boys to focus on. Anyway I ramble, point is I will not be in the group this week and when I come home it is my nieces wedding so don’t think I have disappeared off the face of the earth if there is no sign of me for the next week or so. Lily x

    #5717
    Tosca
    Participant

    I am new here but have been living with a CG son for the last 14 or so years. At the moment I am gaining some benefit and insight from reading others posts, there is so much that I identify with. I have tried to start one of my own but I am floundering. Too much to say but the words won’t come. Maybe one of these days I will manage it. Anyway, please know that this F&F support is vital and appreciated. I feel lost and drowning but this is like glimpsing a life raft.

    #5718
    velvet
    Moderator

    Hi Tosca
    I can’t see you Tosca but I know that you are there and I can hear you and I know how you feel – please let me help you onto the life raft.
    This site wasn’t up and running when I was lost and drowning and it took me many weeks to build up the courage to enter the door of a Gam-Anon group Just being in the same room as people who had lived with the addiction to gamble marked the beginning of me finding the strength to change my life for the better.
    Why not come into the F&F group on Thursday evening 20.00-21.00 hours UK time. All you have to do is follow the instructions and your name will pop up and I will be there to welcome you – I will be with you the whole time and I won’t pressurise you to speak but I will be holding your hand in cyber space.
    And/or copy the post you have put on here, scroll down to the bottom of the F&F forum page, click on ‘New Topic’; type in the Subject box “can’t find the words”; paste your post in the box; scroll down and click send. You’ve already found the words so there is no need to write your first post again.
    One big push is all it takes Tosca, you have been struggling in water that is too deep for too long.
    I really hope to hear from you again soon
    Velvet
    “You never know what results come from your actions but if you do nothing there will be no results” – Mahatma Gandhi

    #5719
    nkremzar
    Participant

    Good Day V
    I’m new here. Just joined today and I will join your group tomorrow night. My son is a CG for over 3 years now and I’m feeling lost as he has attempted suicide twice already in this year. I have been reading many forum here and Its sad that this compulsion takes over these beautiful souls….so sad

    #5720
    velvet
    Moderator

    Hi Nkremzar
    I look forward to ‘meeting’ you in the F&F group.
    Maybe in the meantime you could start your own thread so that you can get individual support – all members are unique so all posts are different although the addiction is the same.
    I can’t give you the support you deserve on a thread that is not special to you and your needs..
    ‘Speak’ to you soon
    Velvet

    #5721
    vera
    Participant

    Thanks for posting to my thread, Velvet.
    The storm was bad. The whole country is in shambles. Three deaths. The Government handled it well and the Met Office gave warnings and support throughout the whole event. All schools, colleges etc were closed for two days. Buses not running so people stayed indoors which, I’m sure helped to save many lives . It will take time for services to be restored. The winds are dying down now. Power went at midday. Seemingly, it will take up to ten days to restore it fully. We are lucky . We were re connected at 6 0 clock.
    I “bet” some casinos are open tonight but I won’t be there….thanks Velvet!

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