[Ru]

Hello,
nI don’t know what to do anymore! It has been well over a decade that I have been trying to help this dear one. He is a great person overall,
nmeans well, and works hard. Many months will go by with self-control then he falls and it takes just as many months to get back in control.
nI literally fear for his life. He is very depressed, feels unworthy, and has become a good liar. The only thing keeping him going is his young children.
nNow that I have found GT my hope is to gain clarity in my role with the help of many.
n
nMama J

[velvet]

Hello Ru

Thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy friends and family forum. This forum will provide you with warmth and understanding from your peers.

Feel free to use the friends and family group, you’ll find the times for these if you click on the “Group times” box on our Home page

Read about the friends and Family Online Groups

Now that you have introduced yourself you’ll find that many of the people you meet here have already read your initial introduction and they’ll welcome you in like an old friend 🙂

If you’re the friend or family member of someone who is either in, or has been through, the GMA residential programme please take extra care to make sure that nothing you say in groups, or on our forums, inadvertently identifies that person. Even if your loved one isn’t connected with GMA, please don’t identify them either directly or indirectly just in case they decide to use the site themselves.

You’ll find a lot of advice on this site, some of which you’ll follow, some you won’t…but that’s ok because only you fully understand your situation and what’s best for you and the people you love. So, take the support you need and leave the advice you don’t because it all comes from a caring, nurturing place 🙂

We look forward to hearing all about you!

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

n

[velvet]

Hi Ru

I hope that you do find the clarity that you desire. I do know that knowledge of the addiction to gamble does give you power over it, just as ignorance means that loved ones often unwittingly help to feed it and keep it alive..

The sheer nature of the addiction to gamble means that a man who owns it will lose when he gambles leading to feelings of unworthiness and almost certainly a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem. The good thing though is that through acceptance and treatment a man can learn to control his addiction and live an amazing, healthy and contented life.

I am glad that your title implies you are not trying to support this man financially – giving a gambling addict cash or clearing his debts will not help him, it will merely clear his slate so that he can gamble again.

How did he control addiction in the months when was takimg control?  Does he attend GA or see a dedicated addiction counsellor or does he believe he can do this on his own?

You have done well writing your first post Ru, the man you care about is blessed to have you on his side.

Velvet

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