12 September 2013 at 3:58 pm #8990
I’m a 30 year old female that has a gambling problem. I’m trying to control it now before it gets out of hand. I still have my savings, but within the last month I’ve spent $1300 in gambling. In the past year, I’ve spent about $4000 if not more. I’m addicted to black jack. Usually when I go to the casino I am bored. I still have about 60,000 in savings, but I want to try to stop this crap now. So I’m coming to this forum for help. Any advice would be helpful. My last visit to the casino I lost 800 and I didn’t tell anyone I was going. I was very embarrassed and still is. I have thoughts about going back, but I continue to tell myself no. I do not have any kids, but I am engaged.serenity prayer13 September 2013 at 4:38 am #8991kathrynParticipant
Hi Denise and welcome,
Im happy you have realised you have an addiction to gamble and need help so early on……it takes some of us years and years to make that leap!
I have a few ideas that may help you, things that helped me. First and foremost I excluded myself from each and every gambling venue within a 2 hour drive away. It is a barrier that I believe helped me the most, the thought of someone coming up to me and telling me I have to leave makes my hair stand on end.
You say you are engaged, have you thought about telling your partner that you need help and support? Having no access to cash is a sure fire barrier as no money = no gambling. Its not an easy thing to do, its scary, but you need all the help you can get right now.
Lastly, keep reading and posting here, read other stories, you can gain a wealth of knowledge and help from others. The helpline and group chats are brilliant too.
Well done on reaching out for help, its a huge step and one you should be very proud of yourself for doing. I wish you well and look forward to reading more from you.
Take care, K xxxTo live, that would be a great adventure – Peter Pan13 September 2013 at 5:09 am #8992
Thank you so much for replying Kathryn and welcoming me. Good luck to you too. I don’t want to give up gambling totally, but I want to have a budget and do it in moderation. Is that still bad?? and he knows about me gambling, but the last time I didn’t tell him about it. I was too embarrassed. I tell him all the time that I have a problem, but I think he thinks I’m joking (sighs)serenity prayer13 September 2013 at 8:15 am #8993janeyParticipant
***** and welcome to Gambling Therapy
If you’ve never accessed help before this is a pretty big day for you and we want to say a big WELL DONE for plucking up the courage to come here. We know it can’t have been easy! We’re easy going here, all we ask of you is that you participate, use the service responsibly and share what you’ve learnt with others here. If you’ve accessed help before, in whatever form, but it either hasn’t helped or you felt you needed to add a little more to you support network, we’re really pleased to see you here. Either way, we’re really looking forward to getting to know you. J
If this is your first visit why not take your time and have a browse around the site? It can be helpful at first to read a little of what people have been talking about on our forums. That way you start getting to know people even before you’ve “met” them in a group and you can get a sense of how things work here. If you’re finding it hard to navigate around the site, you have questions or you’d simply like to talk to a member of the Gambling Therapy team, feel free to drop us a line via e-mail or access our one to one live advice helpline because we’re always happy to help.
I suppose the most important reassurance we can offer you at this stage is that you’re not alone, we’re here with you. As well as the caring and supportive Gambling Therapy Team, there are quite literally THOUSANDS of people here waiting to give you a helping hand on your journey towards recovery. So dive in and get started because you can do this.
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13 September 2013 at 11:28 am #8994
Thanks Janey and the service provided is definitely appreciated. Thanks again:)serenity prayer
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