24 August 2010 at 11:51 pm #16710
I’m 22 and living in Scotland with my partner, I am originally from South Africa.
I moved to Scotland for a better life when I was 20.
I’ve struggled lot for money but finally have a decent job and stay with my Fiancée who works as well.
My problem I think started when i was 18 and staying in S.A, my mom took me to the casino after my dad passed away for the first time, the casino’s back home are wonderful, and we use to go with my parents as kids and play the arcade games.
Any way it was my first time in a casino and i played roulette and won big. i felt so good about myself tht i had won alot of money from nothing so fast.
It was a couple of months till we went again and i won big again about R3000 from a R100 note, but lost about half ot it the same day because i just wanted to win. That was the first time i felt ad about gambling.
I didnt gamble again untill i moved over here, which was online because i needed money to live, even though my gran helped me out. It was every other weekend or so with a few little wins here and there, I finally got a full time job and stopped gambling for awhile untill one night i got abit drunk and spent all my wages, that was the worse feeling ever in te world. I wanted to jum of a bridge that night, i even sat on a bridge over the edge thinking what have I done, I went home and ut myself aswell real deep and bad, I had always been a cutter and depressed growing up. After that i stopped gambling for awhile again, then i thought i’ll try my luck ahain and won some big cash, just after that i met my fiancée, so i stopped again, but i gradually did it more and more with some wins inbetween, now its ecome something i’m doing more than i want to, i won 900 ounds the other night and gambled it all away i just couldnt stop, I still feel sick thinking about it.
I spent abit tonight aswell, and i kee thinking ‘ll win big and me and my fiancee will live happy with lots of money, but i know it wont happen.
Ii love my Fiancee alot and just want to stop this dirty habbit forever before i go to far down the rabbit hole.
I’ve tried to find ways to lock the sites, as i only gamble online now, but cant find anything, i also font want to send alot of money on a program like betfilter.
I just feel so depressed lately and i kee thinking of suicide to escape this hell, something i havnt done alot for the ast two years.
Someody Please help.
25 August 2010 at 12:09 am #16711veraParticipant
glad to meet you in the chat Slellinton!
Gambling is a serious problem. Glad to see you are addressing it while you are still young.
Does your G/F know about your problem?
Maybe a visit to your GP should be your first step.
Gambling is an escape and it masks other health problems e g depression
Don’t take any chances . Help is available.
Let us know how you get on.
25 August 2010 at 1:35 am #16712paul315Participant
Originally posted by Skellington
… I’ve tried to find ways to lock the sites, as i only gamble online now, but cant find anything …
Good evening Skellington, my name is larry and I am a compulsive gambler, my last bet was August 13, 2009. Welcome to GT, a place where you can find help, help for you gambling problems and perhaps even some home to give you relief to your depressed state; however, it might be best to seek professional help in this as well, thoughts of suicide is a serious matter.
For your gambling concerns you can get a free trial offer from Betfiter at http://www.betfilter.com/ or from Gamblock at http://www.gamblock.com/ . Also confide in your fiancee and let him know of your problem, if you are using his computer to gamble he can load a free parent control (and keep the pass word private) that will prevent you from access. Either way try something. Remember you gabbled away hundreds, a few more pounds for this help will be worth it and the tree trial will give you some time to save the money needed.
You can also get rid of the cards that you use to by on the gambling sites, report them lost and don’t provide the replacement numbers to any of the sites. Better yet just get rid of them altogether and buy gift cards to use when a card is required.
Keep coming back and start taking some actions to limit your access to the web and to funds.
God’s speed, use your Higher Power to strengthen and guide you.Larry"Day Two Is Another Day Behind" – With the help of a Higher Power, My 3G’s – God, GA, and GT, I will continue to be gambling free.
25 August 2010 at 1:39 am #16713
she knows i gamble but just thinks its a little bit, i feel im starting to loose a gri on things and i just want my ife back, i want to just scream and cry and just wish i never started this!!! I get so addited to things so fast but this is the worse, i want to tell my GF that i gamble way more than i should but im scared she will hate me, i just want to stop. All i need to do is block the sites but dnt know how.
25 August 2010 at 1:44 am #16714bettieParticipant
Go To the Links Larry mentioned. It will stop access to the sites.
Great proactive step!
25 August 2010 at 9:09 am #16715timParticipant
***** Skellington and a warm Welcome to Gambling Therapy
Having found us you have also found a diverse community who can help and support you on your recovery journey.
As you can see by your replies received you can share your experiences and the difficult emotions you describe in a safe, supportive and non-judgemental environment and by reading others stories am sure you will see that you are very much not alone with your gambling problem
Please click here to see our services page, feel free to use all that this site can offer…
To chat with others in real time you may wish to make use of the support groups, the ***** of these groups are advertised under "What’s on and When" or click here to see the weekly group schedule.
For one to one chat you may want to try the live advice helpline. Click "connect" when these options become available.
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Taking life one day at a time as always.
26 August 2010 at 5:21 pm #16716colin in brumParticipant
Hi and welcoem to the forum. Im sure you will be reading a lot you will relate to on the other threads here. You will also be reading the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?You can get a blocker for your PC which will stop your visiting ANY gambling site on it. Betfilter.com is one though there are others. Maybe connect to the helpline they have here.
There are plenty of GA meetings in Scotland as well so that would also be a good option for you.
Itll help if you do have the courage to tell your fiancee, don’t just present the problem though. Show her what you are going to do to DEAL with the problem as well. Things like installing the blocker, getting to GA etc She could also help by holding the finances etc as well so that you are accountable. Keep posting and let us know what positive actions you are taking.
27 August 2010 at 2:07 am #16717
I am glad you have come here. It shows you are ready to help yourself.. Many dont so well done. Try all the things possible to prevent you gambling. Carrying no cards on you, very little cash and going to GA to meetings once a week at least and coming here posting and reading and joining in groups if you can they are good as is talking one on one with the advisors who are a marvellous bunch!! You have taken the first step in admitting you have a problem and reaching out for help. Dont try to do it alone. We are all here with you
P – Living and Learning
27 August 2010 at 8:50 pm #16718
keep going P – Living and Learning
27 August 2010 at 11:54 pm #16719
i let myself down spent 400 this week on gambling and the sick feeling returns, i thought i could do it and just sto, i want to cry in a ball, swallow some ***** and just be gone.
I know i can stop, i just keep thinking i’ll hit a jackpot or something.
I need to tell my gf. before its to late, i dnt want to loose her she is my life!!!
28 August 2010 at 1:00 am #16720paul315Participant
Originally posted by skellington
… i just keep thinking i’ll hit a jackpot or something. …
Good evening Skellington,
What do you honestly think would happen if you hit a jackpot or something?
I can guide you to a post from someone that by all accounts is an compulsive gambler, someone other myself and many others here, that will tell you what would actually happen based on past experiences; and believe me, believe all of us here, it does not and will not change – a page from the GA guidelines to recovery states the same thing plus shows the only choices that someone in recovery has: "Once a person has crossed the invisible line into irresponsible uncontrolled gambling he or she never seems to regain control. After abstaining a few months some of our members have tried some small bet experimentation, always with disastrous results. The old obsession inevitably returned. Our Gamblers Anonymous experience seems to point to these alternatives: to gamble, risking progressive deterioration or not to gamble, and develop a better way of life.".
The post that can tell you what will happen if you were to hit a jackpot is your introductory post at the top on you topic; go back and read it and see what happened after each and every time you won the "or something". This same thing will happen time and time again if you keep chasing the CG’s elusive dream; but it will get progressive and you will loose more and more, and more than likely, even your girlfriend.
You may have the two alternatives mentioned above, but you have only one choice if your **** to hold on to what is left, if you want a better way of life; make the right choice and do the things and make the changes that are needed to live up to it.
God’s speed.Larry"Day Two Is Another Day Behind" – With the help of a Higher Power, My 3G’s – God, GA, and GT, I will continue to be gambling free.
28 August 2010 at 5:59 pm #16721
spoke 2 my fiancée about it today, it took aload off my chest, she was understanding, going to go to GA meetings and counselling as im still grieving about my father. im turning my life around from today, so 28/08/2010 2am was my last bet ever it has almost destroyed me and my partners love! if anyone knows any GA meeting in glagow please let me know i will beat this disease and thank u eeryone 4 the support.
Means the world to me.
28 August 2010 at 8:50 pm #16722
So happy to hear you are taking steps to fight.. dont stop taking them and dont stop working on your recovery, remember how much effort you put into gambling, put that effort now into not gambling, you can do this!! we are with you
P – Living and Learning
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