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29 November 2015 at 9:37 am #31489TommyBell5Participant
Hi
I’m new to all this kind of thing and feel embarrassed with every word i type. But when you’re this deep inside an abyss of debt and stress i’m starting to realise what next
I’m 29 and I’ve got 2 little kids who I love very much, I only ever gamble on Horses and Football, So ill get started on my story, I started gambling a long time ago in my teenage year’s always loved to do a football bet only on a Saturday, Usually it would be just 5 or 10 pound, My gambling started to get slightly worse when I started working in a local bar just because the horse racing was on everyday in work, So when my kids where born I started to cut down on gambling all together as I needed the money for them, Would still do the odd bet but not as much as I do now, I turn to gambling more now to keep my mind occupied and gives me something to do and take my mind of things, So I split up with a woman i was going with for 10 years and my 2 kids mummy when I was with her I always knew when to stop and enough was enough, So this where my gambling problem/addiction has got worse, February of this year I blew my wages on gambling horses and football, So from there I’ve been going down hill gradually
So been lending money to get me through the months my debts have been getting worse, I owe out about 2grand now and that’s not including family members because I’ve had to borrow to live on and to gamble to try and win the money back I’ve lost, Now we are 1 month away from Xmas and when I get my wages I owe it all out again -
29 November 2015 at 10:37 am #31490velvetModerator
Hi Tommy
I replied to your first post last night, you can see it further down the forum. It is best to keep to one thread so that people can follow your story better.
Tommy you have a problem with gambling which sadly means you cannot win and your debt and misery will increase as long as you place that next bet – however, you can change all that, you can live gamble-free and be in control of your life, the life you want to have. You can be the person you want to be.
I know only too well the pressure that Christmas can bring to you and I know you can start making your life better today and for all your Christmases to come. Nobody can deal with great lumps of the future Tommy, we can all only live one day at a time, so just for today do not place a bet. Just one day is no big deal and you can do it.
I will leave my post to you there but you will get other replies. The forum is quieter some days than others but there are many who are listening to you and who understand you, so be assured, you are not alone..
If I didn’t know you can control your gambling I wouldn’t be here writing to you. I can’t make you stop but I can and do care that you do it for yourself. Just for today – not too hard is it?
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29 November 2015 at 11:25 am #31491TommyBell5Participant
Thanks for the reply velvet, It means alot to me, I know there is people out there listening to me and I’m not on my own, Only reason I posted again was because it wouldn’t let me post the full post it only allowed half, So if the other can be removed and keep the 1 above,
This is an illness and it’s made me feel sucidal at times, I’ve got to a point now where I’ve no 1 to help me and I feel like crying with what I’ve done
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29 November 2015 at 4:34 pm #31492maverick.Participant
TommyBell5,
First of all thanks for sharing , this addiction can and will take everything from us if we let it, we have to try as always “one day at a time” to stay strong and get the better of our addiction, I have gambled for around 25 years although have been in recovery trying to better my life for the last 4 years, even now I still slip up from time to time but that is because I am weak and not trying hard enough, I am a compulsive gambler and when I gamble I cannot stop till everything is gone, the only way I win is by not placing that first bet.
keep sharing how you feel and never give in, you are not alone and there is help around the only way it works is if we want it.
Take care and wish you all the very best.
Maverick
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29 November 2015 at 5:04 pm #31493TommyBell5Participant
Thank for reply maverick
I totally agree and understand where you are coming from cos I’m the same, That’s the way it gets me, There is no cure for it out there and It’s will power and mind over brain, The position its got me in now I would never wish it on any 1
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29 November 2015 at 5:06 pm #31494TommyBell5Participant
I will be posting everyday as well until I fight this illness and beat it once and for all for good
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30 November 2015 at 9:00 am #31495DuncKeymaster
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Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties youre currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if youre new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. Were in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like youre not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
And on that note….
Im going to hand you over to our community because Im sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
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