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    • #55010

      My name is Emmanuel and I’m in so Much Debts that I can barely think straight due to betting far more than I can afford to lose . I took loans from the bank and now I cant pay back . My relationship is soar and i have no social life now,

      I will be Glad to know of anyone can clearly show me a way out, how I can be debt free and enjoy life ones again . I’ve stopped betting but the debts keep haunting me

    • #55011

      Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

      Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

      Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

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      And on that note….

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    • #55012

      First of all – it is great that you have stopped gambling and I hope you have all the things in place to make it impossible for you to start again! (I know nothing is impossible – but you know what I mean!)

      As for the debt, what worked for me – might not work for you because we are probably different ages, in different countries, I don’t know if you are still working or not, etc. etc.

      All I can advise is that you get the best financial advice you can in your home country. I didn’t want to admit to my gambling to anyone like that (I felt ashamed of what I had done) and because of that I am sure I added a lot of money to my interest payments.

      Find great financial advice where you live and be honest with them. That’s all I can say. I wish you well.

    • #55013

      My life has gotten worse now that I gambled gamble, but I realize that probably the people who I interacted with financially before I gambled, made me feel crazy. I think too much, but having said that, it’s all about lies, and chance. Sometimes, life has a spin, and chose life, over spins. Today, is a new day. Tomorrow, is far away.

    • #55014

      How do I come out to the Banks ??

    • #55015

      Gambling is never an option . You win 100 today,  they take 1000s tomorrow 

      Everyone should stop before it turns worst 

    • #55016
      Dark Energy

      it is a process, that takes years in my case.
      it is only bad at the beginning, once you reach to a stage where your monthly installment is 25-30% of your income it become a something that you can live with it.

      few rules:
      1: don’t take extra loans, extra money at this stage will increase your risk of relapse.
      2: if you have credit cards, try to reach to a settlement with them i did close one credit card for 20% only (which is actually the principal amount the rest was interest and fines).
      again you have to check what is possible in your country.
      3:start from the small to the big, if you have 1000$ credit card and a 10000 credit card close the first one first.

    • #55017

      Hi, It takes time to get out of debt and you have to be vigilant. Talk to the bank and all creditors that you can’t pay. They want their money and most likely will work with you on reduced payments. Don’t incur anymore debt!
      If you can, get a second part time job. Increase your income. I did this for awhile and put that money towards my debt.
      Don’t give up! It took me years but by the end of 2020, my lians and credit card debt incurred from gambling will be paid off!
      There are no easy fixes. Keep strong and keep posting!

    • #55018

      There are no easy Fixes . Thanx for your words 

      Going through the most severe depression of my life 

      I hope I survive it

    • #55019

      You may need support not just for your financial situation but for your depression as well.  There may be helplines in your country for that … check here:  Also you may wish to contact a medic as sometimes there is a physical cause of depression that can be dealt with. 

      Above all – keep in contact with people … most depression passes – but keeping contact with friends and families helps to speed things up.

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