4 September 2014 at 4:59 pm #7656
I am facing severe financial problems due to my gambling problem .
This problem can actually keep me away from gambling but how to solve the financial problems created due to gambling . I have house rent to pay , I have tax payments due , I have to repay loans to banks , I have to repay private loans , I have to repay friends loans . With all this around not easy to get any more loans ….. quite mess to clean and very stressed . Anybody can share how can one go about solving financial problems created due to gambling .4 September 2014 at 10:04 pm #7657charlesModerator
Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties youre currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if youre new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. Were in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like youre not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
And on that note….
Im going to hand you over to our community because Im sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂
The Gambling Therapy Team5 September 2014 at 11:34 am #7658
When I look back all my loosing sessions of gambling over last 7 – 8 years one thing stands out that I couldn’t stop when I lost and I continued to loose big . This I believe is a gambling problem which can cause lot of damage . I wonder why can’t we stop when we loose ? Is seems natural to win back what has been lost but in gambling it doesn’t works it ends up in more losses and more losses . I have failed to understand these actions of mine .5 September 2014 at 11:52 am #7659DuncKeymaster
Reading your posts they are always financial based, always analytical, you ask “Why” when the answer may well be “because were addicted or the answer may be “Why Not”
What Id love to read is more about you, how gambling has affected your life in non monetary ways.. look at the consequences of you actions and you may find it easier to stop thinking about the losses and start to focus on what you can realistically do to help yourself
H5 September 2014 at 6:56 pm #7660charlesModerator
Hi Raj and welcome.
I am a compulsive gambler. Why? No idea really, the important question for me wasn’t – why? It was – what am I going to do about it?
For me that was getting to GA meetigns, putting barriers in place, being honest with family etc.
There is a lot of financial support/advice out there. Lots of options from bankruptcy through to repayment plans, with lots in between. Get that advice and support, Im sure if you connect to the Helpline here they will be able to give you some useful links to look at to help you do so.
What then? Unless you address the addiction then any financial solution will be short lived. As Compulsive Gamblers we have the tendency to climb out of one whole only to start digging anotehr one, usually deeper!
Yes teh finances do have to be addressed but keep posting and tell us about the steps you are taking to address your gambling addiction, the barriers you can put in place to stop this happening again.
One day at a time.9 September 2014 at 5:44 am #7661
I visited gambling recovery center last week and had an opportunity to discuss my gambling problem . I got two simple advise which I believe will help me and also others so I am posting it here .
(1) Just don’t make next one bet .
(2) Just don’t take next one loan .
It has been 10 days since I made my last bet and I have been able to not to make any bet even with play money . I have been able not even going into the website on my laptop ,casino is very far . But I wonder if this is because I am struggling for money only . Only with time will know . Would appreciate thoughts on how to not make next bet when we have money next time . Two things comes to my mind (1) Love of something (2) Fear of something . I am sure I have both and just have to develop more of it and make it stronger and stronger .10 September 2014 at 12:06 pm #7662janey1Participant
Ok Raj, why not list here the things you love which you would hurt if you gamble and the things you fear will happen if you continue to gamble? That way you can look back at your list when you feel the urge to gamble and remind yourself of the reasons why you don’t want to.
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